Tips on Creating Blissful New Relationships

Everyone in the face of this world needs love. We have heard of many who have done a lot of extreme deeds all in an effort to feel loved. This just shows how much all of us need to be loved. This is why many make a sigh of relief once they find someone to build a relationship with. As a matter of fact, many relationships are always full of promise with each partner wondering if that is the one special person that they were waiting for all along. But many hardly believe so, mostly due to the horrible past love experience that they have been through. Others might have just started their relationships phase of life and are full of fear and without experience. Whichever the case, it is still possible to create pleasurable new relationships. All you have to do is follow a couple of tips.

 

First and foremost, show commitment. The fate of a relationship depends on the choices and actions both partners take in the relationship. It does not matter whether it is in its initial stages or it has lasted for long, all that matters is the manner in which both of you treat the relationship. Therefore, it is vital that each partner shows his or her intentions of totally committing to the relationship as early as at the onset of the relationship. This way, the relationship grows stronger and stronger day by day and within no time, you will find that the two of you are inseparable.

 

Secondly, intimacy is a must for a relationship to blossom. It is important for the two of you get intimate in the initial stages of the relationship. This way, the two of you will form a strong bond as early as at the onset of the relationship. I know most of you have particular beliefs or principles that are not in line with such behaviour. All in all, the fact still remains; intimacy is a musty. Relax and enjoy the real deal on life. However, do not let this take over your relationship. Too much of anything is poisonous. 

 

Finally, come into the new relationship with a mentality that this is the partner that you will spend the rest of your life with. Think of the relationship as something that will last forever and give it the seriousness that it deserves. Respect your partner and see him or her as one who plays a major role in your life. Take them for who they are and respect them.

 

How Important Personality Check Is When Hiring a Personal Assistant

If you are the owner of a company or business, you get to a point where you need a personal assistant for your business, because you cannot handle the growth alone. This personal assistant may not be your business partner per say, but the influence he or she may have on the business is more or less like that of a partner in the business. This means that a personal assistant can either take your business to new heights or ruin it all together. 

 

The duties of a personal assistant should act as a guideline that should tell you what kind of a person you should expect. The work of a personal assistant demands a high degree of flexibility because it is at times hard to predict the hours in which there is going to be work. It may at times take the personal assistant to work on a weekend or a holiday. The personality of the personal assistant should therefore be that of being easy going as opposed to the one who is too serious and rigid. 

 

The personal assistant should also be able to do more than one thing at the same time, because his or her job is more than that of your secretary and accountant. The personal assistant should have a personality that is out going. A reserved person is not the best for this job. The personal assistant should be able to freely interact with new people and should easily break the ice in tense situations. The business world is not static, and new things and strategies come up every day. 

 

Therefore, the personal assistant should be someone who has an open mind and who learns new things quite easily. Also, the personal assistant should be self-motivated. This will enable him or her to work under minimum supervision, and he or she will also be innovative even in your absence. 

 

Since the personal assistant is a mimic of a business partner, leadership qualities are a must have. The personal assistant should be someone who can delegate duties and who can take charge of situations when you are not there. Leadership qualities go hand in hand with organization. 

 

Also, it is paramount that the personal assistant be very confident. In as much as he or she should identify with the needs of others, there are times when he or she will have to put the foot down and make a final decision regardless of what others think.

 

How to Know the Real You

To a very large extent knowing yourself requires you to understand aspirations both physical, the spiritual values, the emotional values and even understanding of the spiritual and knowing how you can attain all these life requirements. If you come to an understanding of all these aspects of life, then you are on the path to self-discovery. This is what brings lifelong peace in our lives, making it a joyful life and you will be contented in all aspects. 

 

We all at one point in our lives get knowledge, develop our talent and skills that in one way or another make our lives comfortable. In spite of all these we stand ignorant about what we need spiritually. We tend to ignore the spiritual bit of life which is always hidden though it is of great essence. This can largely be attributed to the reason of our unhappy and disturbed life.

 

The first step to self-discovery is by having a look at the needs of the soul and try feeling its need. We need to come to terms with the fact that self is not the physical body that we are seeing each and every day. It is but the inner us comprising of our soul. Since time immemorial we have always been told of our soul being immortal and it tends to pass from body to body.

 

Always remain in connection with yourself by trying to draw attention to what lies on the external. Avoid distractions from the outside. On a number of occasions we tend to focus our attention to meeting of external desires which to a large extent are insatiable. Satisfaction of one leads to the coming of another. Our lives are deeply engrossed to our lives, we are always busy with the hustles and bustles of life and at the end of the dour we remain malnourished from the inside. Our soul is starved. 

 

Consider taking time to meditate. This practice can make us come to terms with our true essence. It can bring light to our real self. Ensure that you are always connected the soul by simply drawing away from external and material desires.

 

Another way to self-realization is having contentment in life. When we are contented we tend to get some time to or have an ample time to have a deep insight in to our lives. We drift our attention and start focusing on such aspects like love, honesty and life sacrifices. We become contented by having love with others. When we start sacrificing ourselves for others, sharing other people’s worries and anxieties and having them as our own.

 

How to Use Your Personality to Choose the Best Career

There are many ways in which personality types are classified, and one interesting classification is that of colors. The color classifications include yellow, blue, green and red types. It is very important to know what color type you are so that you will make the best choice in career. 

 

If you are a yellow, you are that kind of a person that puts others before you and you care about the feelings of other people first. You are a person who is very caring, understanding and patient. You are a home maker, and you are great with kids. Therefore, the best careers include nursing, community resource and teaching. Do not go into technical careers such as engineering or aggressive ones like sales and marketing, because you will waste your personality. 

 

If you are a green type, you love working with figures and actuality, and not with fiction. You do not make rush decisions and you love analyzing a situation before making a final decision or conclusion. You also do not give up easily, and you can push for something until it succeeds. 

 

When you get results, you do not stop at it; you confirm and reconfirm and you take no chances. You love gathering information that will give you enough confidence and surety in the decisions you make. If this is you, consider being an accountant or an engineer. Also, computer programming and other factual sciences will do for you. 

 

You love fun, you love life and you cannot withstand a life that does not seem to have any motion in it. You have nothing to do with the facts that the greens use, and you love adventure. You love making new friends and you love going for trips. You do more than multitasking, and you can hardly concentrate on one thing to the end. Creativity is your second name. this puts you into the blue group. The best career choices for you are those that involve people and not machines – sales, network marketing, public speaking and media (radio and entertainment). 

 

If your main motivation is money and you love getting solutions, you are a red. If you are this kind of a person, then you are much focused and you rarely lose control. You love handling one thing at a time with perfection. You cannot be contained in an activity that does not bring in big money. You fly with eagles, not with chicken. You can be the best CEO ever, and you should go for it. Also, you can make a good pilot, doctor, lawyer and judge.

 

How Your Personality Can Determine Your Home Business Success

Most people dream of one day working from home and experiencing the freedom in time and money that comes with this. This is usually more so in women than in men, because women have more to do at home than men, because they are more or less the home makers. 

 

However, there are also some men who dream of one day working from home. It is no big issue to dream, but making it a sweet reality is. Before you hand in the resignation letter to your boss so that you can start working from home, you need to know your personality and how it can influence the home business. All factors held constant, your personality alone can determine the success or failure of the home business. If you are planning to work from home, you need to be able to multi task, to organize things properly, to be flexible, to be energetic and to be able to hold many ideas in mind at the same time.

 

You must be able to multi task if you are working from home, because there are more distractions here than at the workplace. It is not easy to work while attending to your children, while preparing a meal, doing dishes, laundry et cetera. All of these tasks combined usually take a lot of mental energy, and you need to have an equally if not stronger mind. For this trait to work, you need to be at ease and draw your schedule. Also, you need to ask for help.

 

You also need to be organized. Organization does not only refer to your desk being neat; your chain of thoughts should be neatly arranged and the way you dress up should also be organized. You will not give your best if you are busy talking to your clients on phone with your bunny shoes on and the shower cap on your head. Working from home is not an excuse to look shabby. Avoid eating from your office desk, and let it be strictly for work. Keep it neat and organized, and never start working without a plan. You should also ensure that the whole house is neat, because a chaotic house will affect you mentally and psychologically.

 

In your mind, you should be able to hold many thought and plans. There should be a clear division between each of those thoughts, and they should not be juggled up. This will keep you from being weighed down under your tasks. You should also reserve a place for everything in your mind. Your children are as important as those profits and doing dishes is as important as picking your kids from school and feeding the dog.

 

Importance of Knowing Your Personality

There are many ways through which you can know your personality type. Nowadays, it is very easy for you to know it because there are many tests for personality online that, if correctly done, can give you your personality type or temperament with pin point accuracy. 

 

Personality types are classified in many ways, but all of them can be generalized into four pairs of temperaments – the introverted and the extroverted, the one who thinks and the one who feels, the one who uses judgment to conclude and the one who uses keenness, and, finally, the one who prefers using senses and the one who uses discernment. These different temperaments usually determine how one will react to various situations and the choices one will make.

 

It is of utmost importance that one knows their personality type, because this will make them a better person, a better worker, a better parent, sibling, consultant, student, counsellor, coach et cetera. 

 

When you know your personality type, you get better understanding of yourself first. If you are an introvert, then you will stop being a cheerleader at school, because introverts become very irritable when they are in extroverted situations. An extrovert will stop hiding in the closet and will come out in the open to mingle and to cheer the world. You will also get better understanding of others. You will no longer get upset because your friend is not as spontaneous as you are, but he or she takes time to analyze his schedule before accepting your spontaneous invitation to a movie.

 

When you understand your personality type, you will communicate more clearly to others. You may be the thinker and the one who is very keen as opposed to the one who uses spontaneity and quick judgment. If you know this, you will kindly ask your spontaneous wife to kindly inform you in advance of anything she plans to involve you in. this will help you live harmoniously. Also, you will be able to ask for help in weak areas. For instance, if you are forgetful and procrastinating, you will request your desk mate at work to remind you of something.

 

Finally, you will have success all round. You will relate with others better in marriage, work, business, as a parent, as a coach etc. you will also maintain the friendships you already have easily and you will create other lasting friendships easily. You will live harmoniously with yourself and with others, and you will have fewer conflicts in your life. 

Enjoy Your Life: Change Your Point of View

"Two men look out through the same bars: One sees the mud, and one sees the stars."- Frederick Langbridge, A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts 

 

If you’ve placed second in a writing contest, will you jump for joy and push for better results the next time or will you be discouraged and find an excuse not to join again? 

 

In life, you are always filled with choices. You may opt to have a pessimist’s view and live a self-defeated life or you may decide to take the optimist’s route and take a challenging and fulfilling life.

 

So why nurture an optimist’s point of view? And why now?

 

Well, optimism has been linked to positive mood and good morale; to academic, athletic, military, occupational and political success; to popularity; to good health and even to long life and freedom from trauma.

 

On the other hand, the rates of depression and pessimism have never been higher. It affects middle-aged adults the same way it hits younger people. The mean age of onset has gone from 30 to 15. It is no longer a middle-aged housewife’s disorder but also a teen-ager’s disorder’ as well.

 

Here’s how optimists are in action and researches that back up why it really pays to be an optimist:

 

Optimists expect the best

 

The defining characteristic of pessimists is that they tend to believe bad events, which will last a long time and undermine everything they do, are their own fault. 

 

The truth is optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks of this world. What differs is the way they explain their misfortune---it’s the opposite way. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are confined to this one case. 

 

Optimists tend to focus on and plan for the 'problem' at hand. They use 'positive reinterpretation.' In other words, they most likely reinterpret a negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow. Such people are unfazed by bad situation, they perceive it is a challenge and try harder.

 

They won’t say “things will never get better,” “If I failed once, it will happen again” and “If I experience misfortune in one part of my life, then it will happen in my whole life.”

 

Positive expectancies of optimists also predict better reactions during transitions to new environments, sudden tragedies and unlikely turn of events. If they fall, they will stand up. They see opportunities instead of obstacles. 

 

People respond positively to optimists

 

Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They find no need to control or manipulate people. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and influence those they are with. 

 

Optimism seems a socially desirable trait in all communities. Those who share optimism are generally accepted while those who spread gloom, panic and hysteria are treated unfavourably. 

 

In life, these people often win elections; get voted most congenial and sought for advice. 

 

When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher 

 

Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective well-being during times of stress than do people who are less optimistic. In contrast, pessimists are likely to react to stressful events by denying that they exist or by avoiding dealing with problems. Pessimists are more likely to quit trying when difficulties arise.

 

They persevere. They just don’t give up easily, they are also known for their patience. Inching their way a step closer to that goal or elusive dream.

 

Optimists are healthier and live longer

 

Medical research has justified that simple pleasures and a positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body's ability to fight disease.

 

Optimists’ health is unusually good. They age well, much freer than most people from the usual physical ills of middle age. And they get to outlive those prone to negative thoughts. 

 

So why not be an optimist today? And think positively towards a more fulfilled life.

 

Why not look forward to success in all your endeavours? Why not be resilient? Like everybody else you are bound to hit lows sometimes but don’t just stay there. Carry yourself out of the mud and improve your chances of getting back on the right track. And why not inspire others to remove their dark-colored glasses and see life in the bright side? 

 

Do You Really Understand What Spirituality Means?

Spirituality is one of the main sectors in life. It plays a major role and especially when it comes to religion. However, not many know the exact meaning of spirituality. Most of them only know what it entails but cannot define it. Basically, there is no specific definition for spirituality. It all depends on the individual and the kind of religious beliefs he or she has. As we all know, there are different religions in the world with each having individuals that have varying spiritual enlightenment. As a result of this uncommonly thoughts, then there are a wide variety of definitions all defining spirituality.

 

The most common definition of spirituality is that it is some sort of inspiration to seek God and learn more about Him. This has to be done out of one’s own will and not forcefully. As a result of this, it tends to be far much easier to feel God’s presence inside our own hearts. The other very common definition of spirituality is that is the act of accepting the world just as it is. The world is full of all kinds of characters that bring about many imperfections to the face of the earth. However, through spirituality one is able to neither ignore nor criticize these acts and rather accepting them just as they are. In fact, one tends to get even more united with the world since they know how to handle them. 

 

In relation to the second definition, spirituality can also be termed as the belief in tolerance. This is the only way through which one can intermingle properly with the rest without ending up in some sort of misunderstanding. Tolerance also involves using more than one way to achieve whatever it is you want to achieve rather than forcing your way through one avenue. In addition to these, spirituality can also be termed as knowing all about you. This does not only mean knowing the outer self but also the inner self. In fact, the only way of living to true spirituality is by fully understanding your inner self. 

 

On the other hand, another very common definition of spirituality is that it is offering you. By now, you should all have known that spirituality encompasses a lot of values. Among them is self-offering whereby you sacrifice yourself for the sake of those around as well as other creature’s including plants and animals. However, for one to achieve this, then it is important that he or she gets rid of their ego completely.

 

Feng Shui for Your Kitchen

There are those people who do not know what Feng Shui is but in simpler terms it means wind and water. This is an art which originated from china and it is about the energy flow of life, how it influences our lives and all that is within us. The main feature about Feng Shui is that it is supposed to balance the energy. Feng Shui is made up of five main elements. These elements play a major role in life and in diverse ways. There are no negative elements and positive elements; it is only that they play their part in different ways. Every element however influences the other one in a different way. These elements are the common things around us and these are metal, wood, water, fire and last but not least earth. 

 

The Chinese strongly believe that these elements are the most vital ones of the earth and all that is in planet earth is combination of all these five elements. Each element has a color that it is associated with. The metal element is associated with white and aqua blue. Green and hunter green are related to the wood. Water is however connected to colors black and navy blue. The colors light purple and red are linked to fire. The last element which is earth is related to colors light brown and yellow. With these colors you will be able to know which element is preferable and suits your needs. 

 

Every room in your house need to be applied the Feng Shui art and one of the areas that we are going to look at is the kitchen. There are ten main tips that you could use to Feng Shui your kitchen and have harmony in it. When you apply this art you will experience not only harmony but also peace that surpasses all understanding and lots of prosperity at the center of your home. They might however seem negative but in the long run you will experience peace and harmony. You should also train yourself well so as to keep these tips. 

 

The first thing that you should not do is not avoid the kitchen as the first room to see when you enter the house. The location of your kitchen also matters a lot and so you should ensure that your kitchen is not below the lavatory or adjacent to the toilet. You should also ensure that your kitchen has a layer of lighting. This will make your kitchen well ventilated and large enough. It will also be clean, bright and with an environment that is conducive. Your kitchen should also be gadget free and simple. All the cabinets should be de-cluttered. Always have a vase of flowers or fruit bowl in your kitchen so as to up-lift energy. 

            

Feng Shui for Your Office

Feng Shui is one of the ancient traditional practices that have been assimilated into the modern life. Basically, it is a form of aesthetic material that is believed to bring together the laws of heaven and earth. Using it was believed to help one live positively. This spiritual meaning gave it a vital role to play in the community. Today, people have taken to using the same system to decorate various areas that they frequent with belief that it will result into a positive life. Offices are major areas that really draw out the course of our lives. This is because whatever happens in our offices influences the rest of our lives. Therefore, many use Feng Shui to create a friendly atmosphere in the office as well as bringing productivity into the office.

 

When using Feng Shui in any area, there are spots known as Bagua where this items should be used. Therefore, first spot these areas in your office. A copy of the Bagua can be downloaded from the internet. There are a total of 8 areas, though one must give more priority to the areas associated with wealth and fame. Energy flow is one vital aspect that should be in our offices. Feng Shui provides us with specific tips that we can use to adequately provide our offices with appropriate energy flow.

 

To start with, the desk should be in such a position that it will face the doorway. Alternatively, it will diagonally face the doorway. The aim here is to face the doorway and not letting you back face the door. On the other hand, if there is more than one desk, the arrangement should also change. Two of them should face the door in a diagonal manner while the rest should face the center of the office. 

 

The kind of classroom arrangement should not be used; no matter the number of desks. Find a way of avoiding the back to back arrangement. Secondly, make sure that the office opposite yours across the hall way is in proper alignment. If this is not the case, place a mirror in front of the offices, this way you can clearly see what is going on the other end. 

 

Walls should also be proper. Start by removing any kind of dulls artifacts on the mirror. This includes the likes of mirrors or portraits. Partitions should not be there but if a must, place a mirror on the partition. Finally, give the wall a sense of life by placing some plants on them. 

 

Feng Shui for Your Bedroom

Before we go far on talking about what Feng Shui entails let us first define what it is. Feng shui is the earliest Chinese aesthetic system which is comparable to an art form. This system was discovered so many years back and is mainly famous in the United States and also in china. It is all about traditional folklore. It also involves spiritual powers on Feng Shui. Most of its teaching is usually based on spiritual relationship between heaven and earth. This practice is mostly made up of a combination of Chinese and east Asian religion. And so, it tries very much to stabilize the two or show positive Qi. This is a term that is mostly used in martial arts and it is a force that is general in life and it is mostly believed by practitioners to move to everything. 

 

It is believed that there are two types of Qi. There is the positive one and the negative one. If you bring the positive one in your house, you are assured of success in everything that you do at your home. The chief in Feng Shui is the yin and yang which are opposite polar and they have to stay in perfect balance and agreement. You can apply the theme of Feng Shui in your room by aligning and placing items in balance. These items could include doors, windows and also rooms and homes. In the current situation this art is trying to balance our lives in our respective homes and not only items in our homes. 

 

It teaches us that when you remove some of the items from your sleeping rooms you are able to keep positive Qi. The things that you are supposed to remove from your room so as to raise a positive Qi are like removing computers, TVs and working out equipment from your room. When you do not do this, then you are prone to lose this positive Qi. Your bedroom is supposed to be a place for resting and with lots of harmony but when you add other things it ceases being a calm place for resting. Your room should also bring out a sense of energy and so you can ensure a flow of energy by using colors. This has been shown in color theory and psychology to bring about true benefits. 

 

Some colors like red, orange and also yellow have been discovered to bring confidence and acknowledgement in a room. Other colors such as green and brown show sustenance, medicinal and development. Many people apply this art of Feng Shui in their homes so that they get the power of positive Qi in their homes.