Why It’s Important to Love Yourself

Sometimes it can be hard to love yourself. After all, humans are created with flaws. However, loving yourself is important for many reasons. You can't expect to have a fulfilling life if you can't love yourself.

 

You Are The Only One You Will Spend The Rest Of Your Life With

 

Nothing in life is promised besides the fact that you will be spending the rest of your life with yourself. If you don't learn to love yourself, this can make the rest of your life very miserable. It is essential that you learn to love yourself because you need to love the person you will spend the rest of your life with to be happy. 

 

You Need To Focus On Your Journey

 

If you are filled with self-hate or self-disdain, this is a distraction from your goals. When you choose to focus on what you don't like about yourself, it takes up much more of your time than focusing on loving yourself. Once you resolve to love yourself, this will take up much less of your time and focus, and you will be able to put your energy towards what matters—your journey of success.

 

You Can’t Sell Yourself To Others If You Don’t Love You

 

Besides just helping you on your journey towards achieving your goals and finding happiness in your life, loving yourself is important when it comes to your relationships with others. In a professional sense, if you don't love yourself, it will be impossible to sell yourself to a company in a job interview. 

 

On a personal note, not loving yourself can easily come between you and a significant other. This is because you can't truly love someone else while you hate yourself. Therefore, if you want a successful romantic relationship, you need to learn to love yourself first. 

 

Overall, loving yourself is no easy task. It can take months or even years to learn to love what an amazing human being you are. It is worth it, though, because you will realize just how important it is to love yourself once you do. Loving who you are affects every aspect of your life, from your journey to your relationships with others. And if you want to live a long and happy life, you’ll need to learn to love the person who will be with you for the entire journey, you. 

4 Mindset Shifts That Will Help You Build Momentum in Your Life

The secret to getting things done lies in one simple word: Momentum.

 

Think about it. We learn first about momentum in physics when we’re taught: an object in motion tends to stay in motion. When applied to our lives, this becomes a powerful concept. 

 

Think about it. You have a goal you’re trying to reach. You make some effort toward achieving your goal, but you might be a little hit and miss. Sure, you’re excited initially, but eventually, life gets in the way. You get a bit sporadic about putting in the work. Ultimately, you stop altogether.

 

Momentum is what paints a different picture altogether. With momentum, initial enthusiasm won’t wane. In fact, as time goes by, the impetus toward getting things done increases, and things really start happening. With momentum, you find success where otherwise you might never have found it at all.

 

How to attain this magical concept?

 

Easy. Start with these for simple shifts of mindset, guaranteed to help build momentum in your life.

 

Tap into Passion

 

When we become excited about things, of course we can’t wait to jump in and get working. This is why bright, shiny new ideas are so distracting. On the other hand, imagine what happens when you feel that kind of enthusiasm all the time. To keep this mindset, it’s simply a matter of keeping your eyes on the goal. Remind yourself often what you’re trying to accomplish and why. Hold fast to these concepts.

 

Explore the Ending

 

Want to know how the story turns out? Skip to the last page. In the same way, if you're going to feel excited about the journey you’re on, take a look at the final destination. Visualize your project completed. What does success look like? Make this as tangible as possible, using all of your senses to describe the scene. Once you have this in mind, you’ll find you can’t wait to get there. This feeling fuels momentum.

 

Feel Gratitude

 

When we look at a situation and ask what we’re grateful for, we automatically shift our thinking to look for the good. By experiencing gratitude as you work toward your goal, you’ll build momentum off those good feelings. Positive thoughts lead to positive energy. How simple is that?

 

Let it Go

 

Sounds counterproductive to keeping momentum going, doesn’t it? However, letting go doesn’t mean giving up. It means laying down your load for a while to rest and recuperate. You can only keep momentum going for so long before you need to recharge your batteries. Work on being more aware of how you feel while working to reach your goal. Are you exhausted? Have brain fog? Are you feeling isolated? Perhaps you are missing out on too much of your family life? Some of the people who get the most accomplished know when to let go!

 

With these four mindsets, you’ll be amazed at how quickly momentum builds where before it was flagging. Remember, be intentional and focus on what you’re doing. The momentum will follow, and so will your success. 

 

7 Quick Things You Can do Today to Build Momentum

You’re on the way! You have a goal in mind, you’re working hard to get there. It might be you’re after something personal. It might be you’re concentrating solely on your career right now. Whatever it is you want, you’re hungry for it. You can’t wait to see the culmination of all this hard work. 

 

…only everything seems to be moving so slow…

 

What you’re lacking is momentum. Momentum is what pushes you into action. It speeds you up as you work the steps and keeps you going.

 

So, what do you do when momentum is lagging? Easy. You find ways to build it. Try these quick tips guaranteed to make things happen:

 

Visualize the Future

 

Take some time to consider where you’ll be in six months. What about next year or the next five years? Seeing yourself in the future is a really positive way to keep your momentum going. If you can get excited about the you of tomorrow, you’ll find yourself fighting to become that person right now.

 

Get Up and Do Something

 

It’s so easy to grow stagnant. Rather than binge-watch the latest Netflix sitcom, how about getting up to create some mischief of your own? Go play a game, take a walk, spend time with friends. Do inspirational things to fill you with enthusiasm.

 

Learn Stuff

An active mind is a creative mind. The act of learning, even in small increments such as 10-15 minutes a day, will still improve cognitive function. In short, by keeping your mind active, you will pick up momentum.

 

Act When You Don’t Feel Like It

 

If you’re waiting for the muse to strike, stop. There will never be a perfect time to work. Momentum means keeping going, even when you don’t feel like it. 

 

Put Your Phone Away

 

Giving yourself the gift of uninterrupted time does wonders for momentum. By turning off your phone for an hour, you’ll give yourself the freedom to relax, recharge, explore, and forge ahead.

 

Quit

 

When it comes to momentum, if you’ve found you’re slowing down, it might be because what you’re doing just doesn’t work. In this case, sometimes the smartest thing to do is to stop. Don’t waste time beating your head against a wall when you could be making progress elsewhere.

 

Do Something Scary

 

It’s the challenge that pushes you to new limits. When you do what’s easy, momentum lags. This is why it’s so important to challenge yourself to do the things you never thought you would.

 

Remember, whatever you can find to help keep the momentum going, embrace! If affirmations help, post a bunch of them everywhere. Put on music to get you moving. Create a social life around people who support you wholeheartedly. You’re the one in charge of your destiny, it’s up to you to act. 

 

Bubble Wrap

Have you ever had what you thought was a really great idea turn out to be not so great after all? Now imagine someone else picking up your discarded idea and proving it actually was quite brilliant after all. 

 

This is what happened to Al Fielding and Marc Chavannes back in 1957.

 

These two gentlemen were working on an aesthetic problem. They wanted to create a textured wallpaper to create an interesting effect in a room. Their solution? Take two shower curtains and put them together, so that pockets of air would be trapped between them. This sheet of plastic could be put up on the walls to make for unique and charming décor.

 

The world didn’t exactly come flocking to their door. 

 

Undaunted they tried again. Same product: different marketing approaches. Maybe this unique bubbled plastic could be used to insulate greenhouses.

 

Not really. It sort of worked but was not something every greenhouse owner couldn’t live without. 

 

It took two years for someone to figure out what to do with the product. Frederick W. Bowers, who worked for the company which made the sheets of plastic with air pockets, realized they would be perfect for the transport of computer equipment for a company which had a sudden need for this kind of product – IBM. The material, now called ‘Bubble Wrap,’ was absolutely perfect for the job. The rest, shall we say, is history.

 

Bubble Wrap is one of those products that seemed to come along by accident. As a wallpaper, it wasn’t a great idea. (Just imagine your kids going around the house and poking the bubbles to pop them?). On the other hand, someone who was willing to think outside the box, or more accurately, think creatively about what to put IN a box, was able to come up with a use for the product no one else would have ever considered.

 

Thankfully, the creators of Bubble Wrap hadn’t given up on the product. They knew they had something interesting, they just didn’t know what to use it for. Sometimes you must experiment with your ideas to discover what you really have. Sometimes you have to think more creatively about what you have at hand.

 

The point is not to give up. Failure should never be anything more than a marker to tell you it’s time to attack the problem from a different angle. Learn from the mistake, then move on. Imagine what you’ll come up with when you do!

 

Milton Hershey

Chocolate. So good. So tasty. Who knew a candy bar could lead to a success story?

 

Hershey chocolate has become a staple in just about everyone’s diet. Whether you are a person who loves the straight-up Hershey bar or are more of a Kit Kat or Reese’s Peanut Butter Cup sort of person, there’s something for every chocolate lover. We can’t imagine life without chocolate, although only 150 years ago, only the rich could enjoy the delicious confection.

 

Chocolate had been around for centuries, but candy was something made by hand, taking a lot of time and effort to create. Thankfully some people saw it didn’t have to be that way. 

 

Meet Milton Hershey.

 

Hershey was the sort of guy who loved dessert. He also had a knack for sniffing out business opportunities. Unfortunately, most of his ideas didn’t work out very well. In fact, if it hadn’t been for relatives loaning him the money and a good bit of luck, his caramel business would have died out in the 1880s. Hershey, though, was one to keep an eye out for opportunity. He found it in 1893. 

 

Hershey noticed few were paying attention to a contraption at World’s Columbian Exposition in Chicago. A German chocolatier had a machine which could produce chocolate much more simply, with a lot less work. Although his field wasn’t chocolate, but caramel, he knew a good idea when he saw one. He purchased the machine to adapt to his own work, thinking chocolate-covered caramels might be a good idea.

 

This didn’t exactly work out as planned. What did, though, was making chocolate bars. These candy bars took the world by storm. So much so, Hershey was approached in 1937 to come up with a bar that wouldn’t melt easily but could have added nutrition to send with soldiers overseas as a supplement to their diet. During WWII, he was making 24 million bars a week for the military!

 

After the war, Hershey’s success was secured. He branched out into other kinds of chocolate bars, continually trying new things and expanding production until it became the successful company we know today.

 

Hershey might have been a failure initially, but he had a lot of drive and determination. What didn’t work, he left behind, pursuing quickly what did. When he was approached to try something new, he immediately rose to the challenge, asking, ‘how can I do this’ instead of focusing on ‘I’ve never done this before.’

 

To succeed in today’s world, show yourself to be persistent like Hershey. Never turn your back on a lucky break. Most of all, don’t forget to embrace the sweet things in life. You’ll be amazed where they can take you!

 

This Former Coffee-Hawker Says You're Not Thinking Big Enough

When Michelle Gass ran Starbucks, she helped the company move into 33 countries. When she first joined the coffee-based firm, she was asked to get behind a new drink. Starbucks had just launched the Frappucino, and Gass was ordered to develop a growth strategy to make the drink popular.

 

What began as a side item now earns Starbucks more than $2 billion annually. That's the income from just one drink. To say that Gass' efforts worked out is obvious.

 

She had long ago come up with a belief about how to approach achievement. It can help with personal and career goals. Men and women of all ages and levels of education and success can use the same idea. It’s powerful in its simplicity.

 

What was the approach she took that created such a winner for Starbucks? It's one she's used successfully in her career working with many Fortune 500 companies. She says her mantra is ...

 

"Let's think of how big this can be."

 

She's a firm believer in thinking big. A lot of leaders will tell you this. If you're going to dream, why not dream big? It doesn't make any sense to think small when thinking big doesn't take any more effort.

 

It’s up to you, really. If you have a task or responsibility, shoot for the moon. You get to choose what you strive for in life. Aiming for big results can make your world better for you and everyone you care for. Accomplishing great things feels so rewarding. You might even surprise yourself with what you’re able to accomplish.

 

To start seeing the world as incredibly abundant. Don't think of lack or just enough to get by. Think much bigger and envision big change rather than small, insignificant change. Imagine big things in your life. What you consciously tell your subconscious ends up as action. Your subconscious drives your actions, and your actions are what create the reality in your life.

 

Gass knows this. When Starbucks purchased Seattle's Best Coffee, she employed her "think bigger" mantra. In just a single year, she took Seattle's Best from 3,000 distribution points to over 50,000. That's what happens when you think big.

 

If you want big things in your life, you've got to think big. Dare to think bigger than you could possibly imagine. Even if you come up short, you will have achieved so much.

 

The Power of No: Setting Boundaries for a Healthier You

“No is a complete sentence.”- Annie Lamott

Many of us people pleasers find it difficult to say no and establish boundaries. This often leads to us over-extending ourselves to others and feeling resentful when our boundaries are constantly crossed. But how can we expect others to respect our boundaries when we aren’t even communicating properly and saying no?

Learning how to say ‘no’ and set firm yet healthy boundaries is the key to mental peace and maintaining healthy relationships with others. Having loose boundaries and not being able to say no often leads to us feeling overwhelmed and burnt out. 

Understandably, we all want to be liked by others, but people-pleasing is not the way to go. It just allows others to walk all over us continuously. 

The Importance of Setting Boundaries

While it can be challenging to set boundaries with difficult people, it is important and the key to forming healthy relationships and taking care of your well-being. Saying no to things that do not serve you or you simply do not have the time for can help you focus on yourself and your priorities. It can enable you to create a balance in all aspects of your life. 

For example, if your boss asks you to come in and work on the weekends or expects you to work overtime late at night, it is important to set firm boundaries with your work, learn to say no respectfully, and create a work-life balance for your well-being. This helps you avoid any undue stress and helps you focus on other things in your life that might give you purpose or energize you like your family or hobbies. 

Healthy boundaries can free you from unrealistic expectations from others and the resentments that come with them. They can help you avoid conflicts in relationships. Setting healthy boundaries with your partner, friends, kids, or any other relationship you may have in your life can allow you to nurture these relationships, conserve energy, and save you from a lot of drama and toxicity. 

How to Set and Maintain Healthy Boundaries 

1. Find Your ‘Why’

 

Reflect on the reason you want to set a boundary. Perhaps something in your relationship or friendship is making you resentful and uncomfortable and you want to set a boundary with your friend to preserve your mental and emotional well-being. 

Start small. 

Start slowly and set a few boundaries initially and build them up slowly. Don’t go to an extreme level and set up rigid and unhealthy boundaries that you will not be able to maintain in the long run. Go at your own comfortable pace and make changes as needed. 

2. Set Boundaries Early On

Consider setting boundaries early on in a relationship as it can be hard to start putting boundaries around pre-existing relationships. For example, you could set boundaries early on with in-laws when you get engaged or married. This way you set expectations to be a certain way from the beginning avoiding any confusion or hurt in relationships. 

3. Stay Firm and Consistent

When setting boundaries, it is important to not let them slide as it will make people not take you seriously and just add to the confusion. Staying firm can help reinforce your boundaries. 

4. Communicate When Your Boundaries are Crossed

Confidently communicate when someone disrespects and crosses your boundaries continuously. You can communicate assertively and effectively without sounding aggressive or confrontational and still assert your boundaries. 

For example, if someone keeps calling you late at night repeatedly you could say something like, “I can see you want to get a hold of me, but the best thing would be to text me, and I will get back to you when I have the time in the morning.” This assertively highlights their behavior and sets and maintains your boundaries.

Setting boundaries and saying no to things that do not serve you can be an empowering experience and help you maintain great relationships. While setting your boundaries, it is also important to recognize the boundaries of other people and respect them just as you would expect them to respect yours. 

Try not to violate the boundaries of other people as it can cause resentment and contempt to build them which leads to toxicity in relationships and people withdrawing from others who may cross their boundaries. 

It is possible to set boundaries without being aggressive, confrontational, or upsetting people. Don’t feel guilty about setting boundaries and take it as an act of self-care and something crucial to your overall well-being. 

The Art and Science of Setting Goals

Setting long term goals can feel overwhelming, and sometimes we don’t know where to start. In this article, we will cover 5 ways you can get a kickstart in learning the best ways to challenge yourself by setting long term goals, while still taking small steps with the present challenges and goals you still need to complete in order to get there. This article is intended to be a guide and stepping stone in making the choices that are best for you.

 

What are SMART Goals

 

SMART goals are a structured approach to setting, planning, and achieving your goals.

 

By breaking down goals into five essential components—Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound—the SMART framework offers a clear pathway to move from idea to action. 

 

This is a widely used method for setting goals in all areas from personal development and education to business.

 

Here’s a breakdown of what each component means and why they matter:

 

S: Specific

 

The goal must be clear and specific. A well-defined goal answers questions like:

 

• What do I want to accomplish?

• Why is this goal important?

• Who is involved?

• Where will it happen?

• Which resources or limitations are in place?

 

M: Measurable

 

Your goal should include metrics so you can track progress and stay motivated. Quantifying the goal allows you to assess whether you’re on the right track or need to make adjustments. Measurements can be in terms of quantity, frequency, or milestones.

 

A: Achievable

 

Goals should be realistic and attainable within the resources, time, and skills available to you. Setting achievable goals ensures you don’t become discouraged. However, it’s equally important that they’re challenging enough to encourage growth.

 

R: Relevant

 

The goal should align with your broader life objectives, values, and ambitions. A relevant goal matters to you and, ideally, contributes to your larger objectives. This alignment ensures that you stay motivated even when challenges arise.

 

T: Time-bound

 

A SMART goal has a deadline or timeframe to provide focus and a sense of urgency. Deadlines help to prioritize the goal and prevent procrastination, while also giving you a target date for measuring success.

 

Tips to Make Goals a Reality

 

1. Create a Plan

 

The first step in taking on the challenge of setting long term goals for yourself is to create a plan. This can be done by sitting down and journaling and writing down a 5-year plan. 

 

This 5-year plan can be based on where you want to be in life in 5 years. Write down what that main goal is, and then write down your sub goals you have to achieve along the way. Writing each goal down (big or small) is a mentally healthy way to keep track of any challenges you want to overcome.

 

2. Learn

 

Learning is the next important step towards challenging yourself to setting long term goals because the only way to achieve those goals is to learn and grow along the way, and this can be in any area of your life. 

 

One example of this would be to learn a new language. By learning a new language, you are challenging your brain to take on a new skill that is completely foreign. The act of doing this can help you build confidence and teach you that you can take this ability and confidence and apply it to your bigger, long-term goals later. 

 

You never know, learning that new language may even come in handy one day if needed. Learning new skills and going out of our comfort zone is one of the hardest things to do, but the outcome is always rewarding.

 

3. Reflect On Your Progress

 

As you go through each day, each day is one step closer to your big goals you want to achieve. It is crucial that you periodically track your progress along the way and reflect on the little achievements you have made so far. 

 

Even if those little achievements are small, they are still counted for, and they still lead to bigger achievements later on. Give yourself time to ponder and think at the end of each day and go for a walk while you think about how things are progressing. This can help you connect deeper with yourself on a personal level, and this is a good way to understand more about yourself and if there are any minor changes you need to make.

 

4. Maintain a Positive Mindset

 

Maintaining a positive mindset as you track your goals is one of the biggest steps you can take in challenging yourself to reaching your long-term goals. Maintaining a positive attitude along the way is not as easy as it sounds. 

 

It is natural to feel lost and frustrated some days, and contemplating on if you are taking the right shoes for yourself will come naturally, too. However, one way to stay on track is to talk to a mentor, friend or loved one. 

 

Don’t be afraid to open up about what you want to achieve in life. Talking to a trusted friend or loved one can be therapeutic and beneficial to not only you, but to them as well because they will admire you for being vulnerable and will be inspired to challenge themselves as well. 

 

It is important not to be discouraged and it is normal to have bad days but talking to a mentor or a loved one about things you want to achieve and getting their opinion can be helpful. You never know, they might actually have an opinion that you can really apply your goals to.

 

5. Visualize Your Future

 

By visualizing your future as you go through each day and get closer and closer to your long-term goals, it can be a great motivational tool to use to keep everything going on track with a positive mindset. 

 

This can also be done by creating a vision board for yourself to look at every day in the morning when you wake up, and then right before you go to bed at night. The vision board can be a collage of pictures, quotes, and affirmations that help inspire you to challenge yourself to reach your long-term goals. This is especially helpful if you are a visual learner. 

 

Of course, there are other ways to visualize your future too, such as journaling, or just simply talking to a friend or a loved one about your progress, hopes and dreams.

 

Final Thoughts

 

This article is merely a beginner guide to what steps you can take to challenging yourself to achieve long term goals, and how to stick to a plan. There are many ways you can do this, however the 5 steps we have discussed are most common and the most helpful. It is important to take whatever step is right for you and what fits your specific goals.