When you start dating someone, you hardly think of it as an impactful decision, but your choice of partner will be one of the most important decisions you make. It influences every part of you, from your happiness and success to your health and finances, as well as your family, friends, and your children too. It isn't a decision that you should take lightly.
You want to choose someone who will bring out the best bits of you, someone who brings joy, who makes life easy just as you do for them. Your partner should contribute positively to your physical and emotional well-being.
Often, people emphasize the practical aspects of selecting the correct partner. They are logical and practical, to consider income and profession, even sophistication and status. Logical, but what is good on paper is not always good in reality.
Whereas some people focus on impractical traits like adventure, fun, and spontaneity. You can't get caught up on one or two things, you can't be all practical or all impractical, you have to strike a balance. Balance is what brings us success and ultimately, your heart and your head have to have a role in the decision-making process.
Reason 1: This Is Your Career
Every part of your life will be impacted by your partner. You need to be with someone who respects you, who builds you up, highlights your ambitions, and pushes you to chase your dreams. You should be with someone who respects every part of you and you should offer the same in return. There shouldn't be jealousy over someone's career taking off when the other person's career isn't, everything you do is a team effort.
Reason 2: This Is Your Happiness
The partner that you end up with will heavily influence your level of happiness. How happy are you going to be if you end up with the wrong person? Anyone who has lived with the wrong partner knows how much that can impact your happiness levels.
While happiness isn't external and it has to come from inside you, your partner will influence your internal world more than you would care to admit. Only you can make yourself happy, but that doesn't mean others can't make you unhappy.
Reason 3: This Is Your Love
If someone is fine or they're nice to you, but that's all you have to say for them then what are you doing? You are going to make a life with your partner and someone being fine or nice is not enough to hold that together. Whether you're having children or not, there should be more to your relationship than that.
Reason 4: This is Your Health
There are plenty of articles about how marriage positively impacts your health, but I think it's important to highlight that it's happy marriages and I would suggest that extends to live-in relationships as well.
In addition to your physical health, the right partner is good for your mental health too. In that, if you are dealing with stress or anxiety, a good partner will support you. Whereas a bad partner might be a contributing factor to your issues.
Reason 5: This Is Your Co-Parent
If you plan to have children then your partner is going to be your co-parent, even if you break up down the line. They are going to be tied to you forever and it's important to consider what type of parent they would be.
Reason 6: This Is Your Life
The person you choose to spend your life with is going to be with you all the way through every step of life. If you can't imagine seeing them at your side for all of the milestones and failures then maybe you haven't met the right person.