Breaking Bad Habits: A Practical Guide To Positive Change

Why is it so difficult to overcome bad habits when we know we may harm ourselves or others? For example, we know about the health risks associated with smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol excessively, and overeating. 

 

Our families, friends, and others are impacted by secondhand smoke and the effects of alcoholism. We want to give up our bad habits, but the short-term pleasure makes quitting or changing habits challenging. This article will explore the psychology that causes us to form habits and how to make positive changes to break bad habits.

 

About Habits

Our repetitive actions become habitual and are a normal part of the human state. Habits can be beneficial, such as taking a shower or exercising. On the other hand, regular use of illegal drugs, for example, can become a bad habit. Habits can also form when pleasurable things prompt the brain’s “reward” center, leading to unhealthy routines like gambling or overeating.

 

Eventually, the habit becomes an automatic behavior without consciously thinking about it, and it can be difficult to stop. Developing new habits is challenging since the brain retains automatic behavior. 

 

Still, you can eliminate bad habits with patience and commitment by trying the following practical strategies for positive change.

 

Identify Your Bad Habits and Triggers: List the habits you want to change to improve your well-being. Don’t try to change all your habits at once. Instead, choose the highest priority habit that you want to change and focus on it. This will increase your chances of success.

 

Think about what triggers the habit and explore options for avoiding it. For example, assume that you are stressed after work each day and find that drinking alcohol helps you to relax. However, you’ve gotten into the habit of drinking excessively and are concerned about your health. 

 

In that case, you can learn techniques such as meditation to help you relax. Ensure that you take short breaks during the workday to practice meditation. This will help you to cope with stress better. After work, when you feel the urge for a drink, substitute it with exercise, such as a brisk walk to help you unwind.

 

Your goal is to reduce or remove the trigger and substitute the bad habit with a good one.

 

Accept Discomfort: Changing habits is complex and can make you anxious and agitated. Recognize that these are normal feelings; they are temporary and will diminish with time. If you feel discomfort, do something that relaxes you; it’s a distraction and will help you to feel better. Consider going for a walk, reading, playing a game, or taking a short nap.

 

Adopt a Positive Mindset: We all have an inner voice and unconsciously have negative thoughts at times that are discouraging or detrimental to our well-being. You may think, “I can’t do this,” or “I’ll never kick this habit.” Be aware of these thoughts and replace them with positive self-talk such as “I can do this” or “I will do this.”

 

Be Kind to Yourself: You’re human; it’s essential to forgive yourself if you backslide while trying to break a habit. Give yourself credit for your efforts thus far. Rather than give up or put yourself down with negative self-talk, you can pick up where you left off and get back on track. Remember to be aware of scenarios that trigger the habit and either avoid or substitute the behavior with something positive.

 

Conclusion

When we repetitively practice behaviors, good or bad, those behaviors become habits. The habits that are bad for us are challenging to overcome. However, we can learn how to identify the triggers that make us indulge in our detrimental routines and then avoid the trigger or substitute it with positive behaviors such as exercise or enjoying a stroll in the park. 

 

Along the way, if we backslide, we must remain positive and persistent and keep trying. In the long run, by trying the preceding tips, you are taking a practical approach to making positive changes in your life.

References

https://newsinhealth.nih.gov/2012/01/breaking-bad-habits

 

https://www.psychologicalscience.org/observer/breaking-bad-habits

 

https://knowablemagazine.org/content/article/mind/2021/the-science-habits

 

How To Believe In Your Dreams And Make Them Happen

“Reach high, for stars lie hidden in you. 

Dream deep, for every dream precedes the goal.”

- Rabindranath Tagore

 

Can you really believe in your dreams? Are they attainable? Do you pursue them actively, every day? If you don’t, then your dreams will only be dreams. They are more like fantasies if you don’t invest in them and act on them. 

 

Think about claiming your dreams and making them happen. This leads like a path to your life’s purpose, and the life you were intended to live. 

 

Here are some valuable steps to believe in your dreams and make them happen:

 

Don’t allow fear to overcome your dreams. 

 

Believing in your personal dreams can be tied up in your fears. Fear can hog-tie even the most noble dreams, so they won’t grow. Fear is sneaky, but so overpowering. 

 

Fear will make you think you can’t make your dreams happen. It makes you feel that you’re not young enough, or smart enough or rich enough, to make them a reality. Why is that? 

 

It’s your ingrained fear of failing that does it. This overpowers any desire or will to try to reach for your dreams. Rather than pursuing your dreams, you believe, falsely, that your dreams can never come true. You’ll never know if you could have succeeded or not. If fear wins you over, your dreams will die. 

 

Identify your dreams.

 

You may have many dreams, and some of them may change, over time. They can only come true if you truly care about them. Work on your dreams now, instead of waiting for the “best” time or situation. 

 

If you have dreams that have not yet come true, pick one now. Dedicate yourself and make it happen. Don’t worry about what other people say, and don’t make any more excuses. Either that, or perhaps this wasn’t a true dream for you from the start. Look for another from your list and go after that dream. 

 

Believe fully in your dreams. 

 

Dreams are not only powerful thoughts. They also push you to do or be something. If you are daring enough to dream, you should also hold the courage to believe in those dreams. Dreams allow you freedom to change fantasy to reality. 

 

Dreams are easier to dream than they are to make happen. If you do something you love and shoot for what you want, this is more satisfactory and simpler than holding dreams in your heart but not acting on them. Take the chance and make a dream happen in your life.  

 

Pursue your dreams. 

 

Believing in your dreams is wonderful, but only if you pursue them. In order to do that, you must:

 

1. Set goals that are realistic. 

 

Set attainable goals, but also challenge yourself to make them happen. Start with smaller goals and work your way through to larger ones. Break dreams into steps that are manageable, and that you’ll be able to complete. 

 

2. Develop a more positive attitude.

 

Believe in yourself and remain positive. Keep your motivation strong, since pursuing dreams may be tough. Surround yourself with family and friends who uphold and support you, to help keep you on the right track. 

 

3. Take definite action.

 

Don’t wait for something to happen – you need to make it happen yourself. Take steps, even if they’re small, towards your dreams. The more you act with purpose, the closer you will be to making your dreams happen. 

 

4. Persevere even if you have setbacks.

 

As with any journey, there are bumps in your path. If you come up against obstacles and they knock you back, get up and move on. When you pursue your dreams, the race is not a sprint but a marathon. Remain focused and don’t give up. 

 

Conclusion

 

Believing in your dreams and making them happen does take effort, but it is possible, as long as you’ve set your mind to it. Take smaller steps and remain positive, and you will be able to overcome any difficulties you encounter. Start pursuing your dreams today!

 

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.” 
- Harriet Tubman

 

The Influence Of Positivity: Fostering Optimism In Challenging Times

Just when we are sailing smoothly through life, something unexpected comes along and throws us into a downward spiral. Terrible accidents, job loss, illness, the challenges of aging, or the loss of a loved one all can hit us hard personally. On a broader scope, the age in which we live has more violent crime, unemployment, social and political unrest, and economic hardships, draining our ability to cope. 

 

However, even in distressing circumstances, you can learn to approach life with optimism. Science has shown that people tend to bounce back when faced with significant life stressors.

 

The Difference Between Positivity and Optimism

Oxford Languages defines optimism as “Hopefulness and confidence about the future or the successful outcome of something.” In contrast, positivity is “The quality, character, or fact of being positive.”

 

In other words, optimism is anticipating positive outcomes in the future, whereas positivity is how we react to situations. An optimistic outlook helps us to foster positivity.

 

The Importance and Benefits of Optimism

Multiple studies were conducted to evaluate the links between optimism and psychological coping. The broaden-and-build theory (Fredrickson, 1998, 2001) found that optimistic feelings are helpful. "Experiences of positive emotions during times of stress prompt individuals to pursue novel and creative thoughts and actions.” 

 

Research by Johns Hopkins expert Lisa R. Yanek, M.P.H., and her colleagues found that people prone to heart disease who had an optimistic viewpoint were “13% less likely than their negative counterparts to have a heart attack or other coronary event.”

 

There are many other benefits to being optimistic, including:

 

• Reduced Risk of Depression: Studies show that positive people have better mental health, lowering the risk and severity of depression.

• Healthier Lifestyle: Optimistic people typically make healthy choices such as eating nutritious foods, exercising, and getting sufficient sleep.

• Longer Lifespan: Those who are optimistic tend to have good health and live longer than pessimistic people.

• Better Coping: Optimistic people handle stress better and recognize that hardships are only temporary.

 

How Do I Become More Optimistic?

Adjust Your Mindset

 

A mindset is how people perceive themselves and their beliefs, contributing to their attitudes and behavior. “By understanding, adapting and shifting your mindset, you can improve your health, decrease your stress and become more resilient to life’s challenges.” You can learn to shift your mindset by practicing positive self-talk and daily positive affirmations.

 

• Positive Self-Talk: Self-talk is the inner discussion or thoughts we all have; our thoughts can be positive or negative. As humans, when faced with hardships, we tend to blame ourselves. For example, if you were laid off from work, you might think, “What did I do wrong?” or “I really messed up.” Instead, replace the negative thoughts with optimistic ones, such as “I have the skills to find an exciting new career.”

• Daily Positive Affirmations: Improve your self-esteem and positivity by practicing daily affirmations, which are things we say to ourselves to acknowledge our self-worth, such as: "I choose to be happy today." or "I am optimistic."

 

Socialize with Positive People

 

When you interact with optimistic people, you tend to become more optimistic. You can learn from other people and have a great support system. You can meet people by taking a class, joining a group or club, attending church, or volunteering.

 

• Practice Acceptance: Experiencing negative and positive emotions is part of life. Accepting and valuing everything that happens is essential as it will improve your coping ability during difficult times. An optimistic person will look at challenging times as lessons learned for the future.

 

Live a Healthy Lifestyle

 

Strive to eat unprocessed, nutritious foods such as fruits and vegetables, lean proteins, whole grains, and fish. Exercise for at least 30 minutes daily to reduce stress, improve strength, and lift your mood. Choose a form of exercise you enjoy, such as walking or riding a bicycle.

 

Laughter is Good Medicine

 

Laughter increases your oxygen-rich air intake, stimulating organs such as the heart and lungs. It releases endorphins, a “feel-good” hormone. Indulge in fun activities that make you laugh, and always try to find the humor in things.

 

Conclusion

Optimism is important for our mental and physical health and well-being. Being positive can reduce the risk of depression, improve our coping abilities, and contribute to a longer lifespan. Optimism is essential for our personal growth. When we are optimistic, we approach life’s challenging times with positivity and confidence.

 

References

 

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3132556/

 

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/profiles/details/lisa-yanek 

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/07/11/cheerful-heart-attack-risk-happy-well-being_n_3575548.html 

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2894461/ 

https://news.stanford.edu/report/2021/09/15/mindsets-clearing-lens-life/ 

https://hbsp.harvard.edu/inspiring-minds/how-to-stay-optimistic-when-so-much-is-still-unclear 

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_prime_your_mind_for_optimism 

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/positive-thinking/art-20043950

https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/self-talk 

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress-relief/art-20044456 

Your Improvement, Your Journey: Personal Growth Tactics

Written By: Ian Garza

Embarking on a journey of self-improvement requires dedication, knowledge, and a willingness to embrace change. This guide is tailored to inspire and equip you with effective strategies to enhance your well-being. Embrace these principles to unlock a healthier, more fulfilled you.

Embrace Movement Whenever You Can

Physical activity is a celebration of your body's capabilities. Beyond physical benefits, exercise is a powerful tool for mental clarity and emotional stability. Whether it's a morning run or a dance class, find joy in movement and let it become a sanctuary for your well-being. Regular exercise boosts endorphin levels, elevating your mood and combating stress. It also helps in building resilience, improving sleep quality, and fostering a sense of accomplishment.

 

Hydration: The Essence of Vitality

 

Water, the source of life, is often overlooked in its importance. Consistent hydration is the cornerstone of health, facilitating critical processes within your body. Strive to consume at least two liters daily. This simple yet profound act can revolutionize your physical and mental performance. Adequate water intake aids in detoxifying the body and enhances cognitive functions. It also plays a vital role in maintaining skin health and preventing dehydration.

 

Navigating the Path to Sobriety

 

If sobriety is your goal, know that seeking help is a sign of strength. In times of struggle, do not hesitate to seek help locating available treatment. Rehab can offer the guidance and support needed to reclaim control over your life. Recovery is a journey that requires patience and perseverance, and rehab provides the tools and support necessary for this path. It's a safe space to understand and overcome the challenges of addiction, offering a new perspective on life.

 

The Miraculous Benefits of Vitamin C

 

Vitamin C is a powerhouse for health and beauty. Its ability to increase skin elasticity by a staggering 61.4% surpasses even the most acclaimed cosmetic creams. In this era of health uncertainties, like the pneumonia virus outbreak, the immune-boosting properties of Vitamin C are indispensable. It also aids in wound healing and acts as a powerful antioxidant, protecting the body against free radicals. Regular intake of Vitamin C can lead to improved heart health and lower the risk of chronic diseases.

 

Yoga: Harmony of Body and Spirit

 

Yoga is not just exercise; it's a bridge to inner peace. This ancient practice weaves together physical postures and mindful awareness, promoting a unique equilibrium of body and mind. Embrace yoga as a tool for flexibility, strength, and serenity. Practicing yoga regularly can lead to improved posture and reduced back pain. It also encourages deep breathing and mental focus, which are essential for stress management.

 

The Art of Meditation: A Refuge for the Mind

 

In the chaos of everyday life, meditation offers a haven of tranquility. This practice of mindfulness and concentration can transform your mental landscape, reducing stress and fostering a profound sense of inner calm. Meditation improves self-awareness and emotional well-being, allowing for better handling of life's challenges. It can also enhance creativity and problem-solving skills, making it a valuable tool for personal and professional growth.

 

Nutritional Wisdom: Eating for Life

 

The food you consume is the fuel that drives you. A diet rich in fruits, vegetables, and lean proteins is not just about maintaining health; it's about enriching your life. Nourish your body and soul with choices that reflect a commitment to your well-being. Eating healthily can lead to a more balanced mood and sustained energy levels throughout the day. It also supports immune function, reducing the risk of illnesses and promoting longevity.

 

Your journey to self-improvement is a testament to your strength and determination. By adopting these practices, you are not only transforming your life but also setting a foundation for lasting health and happiness. Embrace this journey with an open heart and mind, and witness the remarkable changes that follow.

 

Gain insights and inspiration from Dr. Tan Kwan Hong – start exploring today!

 

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How to Start a Visualization Practice - The Fundamentals

Introduction to Visualization

 

Visualization is a powerful mental practice that involves creating vivid and detailed images in your mind of the future you desire. By engaging your imagination and cognitive processes, you can turn abstract goals into concrete visions, making it easier to achieve them. Think of visualization as a mental rehearsal for success. Whether you aim to improve your health, advance your career, or achieve personal goals, visualization can help you get there. Let’s dive into the basics of how to start this transformative practice.

 

Section 1: Understanding Visualization

 

Visualization begins with your mind. It involves creating detailed mental images of your desired outcome and engaging all your senses to make these images as real as possible. The key is to imagine not just the visual aspect, but also the sounds, smells, tastes, and feelings associated with your goal. This multisensory approach helps to anchor the visualization in your subconscious mind, making it more effective.

 

For example, if your goal is to excel in a public speaking engagement, you would visualize yourself on stage, seeing the audience, hearing their applause, feeling the microphone in your hand, and sensing the adrenaline and excitement of delivering a successful speech. The more detailed your visualization, the more powerful it will be.

 

Section 2: Setting the Stage for Visualization

 

Before you begin visualizing, it’s important to create a conducive environment. Here’s how:

 

Find a Quiet Space: Choose a location where you won’t be disturbed. This could be a quiet room, a peaceful outdoor setting, or any place where you feel comfortable and relaxed.

 

Eliminate Distractions: Turn off your phone, close the door, and minimize any potential interruptions.

 

Create a Relaxing Atmosphere: Dim the lights, play soft music, or use white noise to create a calming ambiance. You might also consider using aromatherapy with scents like lavender or chamomile to enhance relaxation.

 

Get Comfortable: Sit or lie down in a comfortable position. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths to center yourself.

 

Section 3: The Visualization Process

 

Now that you’re ready, follow these steps to begin your visualization practice:

 

Define Your Goal: Start by clearly identifying what you want to achieve. Be specific and detailed. Instead of visualizing “success,” visualize a specific achievement, like getting a promotion, completing a marathon, or mastering a new skill.

 

Create a Detailed Image: In your mind’s eye, see yourself achieving this goal. Include as many details as possible. What does it look like? What sounds do you hear? Are there any specific smells or tastes associated with this achievement? How does it feel to accomplish this goal?

 

Engage Your Emotions: Emotions play a crucial role in visualization. Feel the excitement, joy, and satisfaction of achieving your goal. The more positive emotions you associate with your visualization, the more powerful it will be.

 

Repetition is Key: Practice your visualization daily. The more you visualize, the more ingrained these images will become in your subconscious mind, increasing the likelihood of achieving your goals.

 

Section 4: Tips for Effective Visualization

 

To make the most of your visualization practice, keep these tips in mind:

 

Stay Positive: Focus on positive outcomes and avoid negative thoughts. If doubts or fears arise, acknowledge them and then shift your focus back to your desired outcome.

 

Be Patient: Visualization is a skill that improves with practice. Don’t get discouraged if it feels challenging at first. With time, it will become easier and more effective.

 

Combine with Action: While visualization is a powerful tool, it should be combined with action. Use your visualizations to motivate and guide your efforts toward achieving your goals.

 

Conclusion

 

Visualization is a powerful practice that can help you turn your dreams into reality. By understanding the basics, setting the stage, and engaging in regular practice, you can harness the power of your mind to achieve your goals. Remember to stay positive, be patient, and combine visualization with actionable steps. Start your visualization journey today and watch as your desired future begins to unfold.

 

5 Tips for Keeping Self-Sabotage at Bay

We want to be productive. In fact, you might even wake up in the morning with all kinds of enthusiasm for the projects you’re going to get done during the day. 

 

Now fast forward a few hours, and suddenly you’re dragging yourself home at nightfall wondering where the day went, feeling like you never accomplished anything at all.

 

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Most people feel this way at least sometimes. The trick is to realize that this isn’t something entirely outside of your control. Sure, things are going to happen, which derail you, but more often than not, you’re reaping the fruits of self-sabotage. You’ve derailed yourself, through your own negative self-talk.

 

How to get past this? Simple! Start with these easy tips:

 

Listen to Music

 

It’s hard to get yourself going if your mood is what’s dragging. Thankfully this is a quick fix. Put on some music you love, something fast-paced and catchy for a quick pick-me-up and watch your productivity soar.

 

Get up and Move

 

Like listening to music, putting your body in motion will build your energy levels (so long as you’re not trying to run a marathon). Dance around the room, take a brisk walk or try a few jumping jacks to get the blood flowing. Then tackle your task again, wide-awake and energized.

 

Look Inward 

 

Conversely, sometimes what you need is some quiet time. If you find your mind racing and yourself unable to concentrate on what you’re going, try meditation to slow things down. Find a quiet place, close your eyes, and focus on your breathing. Take deep breaths, nice and slow, and focus yourself on the present until you feel calm again.

 

Reassess What’s Important

 

It might be you’re not getting things done because you no longer find the value in your goal. If this seems to be the case, take some time to ask yourself some very crucial questions about why you’re on this journey. It might be you either need to shift your goal to something else entirely or, at the very least, adjust the outcome to serve your present needs.

 

Contribute

 

When all else fails, if you do not feel your work has value, offer to help someone else. Mentoring is one of those win-win situations where you bring your life skills and experience to help someone else who truly needs it. At the same time, you rediscover your passion through the act of teaching others what you know.

 

Do all this, and it’s good-bye self-sabotage, hello accomplishment. Soon you’ll be more productive than ever! 

 

7 Secrets to Reclaiming Confidence that Successful People Know

Winston Churchill once said, “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” 

 

The problem is, enthusiasm can be hard to come by, especially when yours has taken a beating. Setbacks and disappointments have a way of knocking it down. We start doubting ourselves and lose sight of who we really are. Without confidence, it becomes impossible to try, guaranteeing failure. 

 

Thankfully, we know one thing for certain: confidence can be reclaimed, as every successful person knows. Read on to discover 7 things successful people know about reclaiming confidence.

 

They Remind Themselves They Can Do It

 

Successful people recognize failure is normal. Getting there won’t be without bumps. The important thing when trying to regain confidence is to realize success is still a possibility…or even a probability. This is where you remind yourself of your goal and visualize success all over again.

 

They Walk Away

 

There comes a time where a break is the best thing you can give yourself. Confidence wavers when you’re feeling stressed and overwhelmed. Doing a hobby you love, or even just taking a walk, or spending time with friends, does a lot toward regaining a positive mindset when you’re feeling frustrated.

 

They Revisit the Past

 

Where have you succeeded before? Where have you failed? Everything that’s come before is a teaching moment. What do you know about yourself already from these events? Understanding the “you of yesterday” is where your insights today come from. Confidence comes from using this knowledge well. 

 

They Forgive

 

Hating yourself for some mistake you made isn’t going to get you anywhere and only destroys your confidence. Being able to let go and forgive the past is crucial to future success.

 

They Keep a Handle on What They’re Saying

 

Self-talk can be particularly destructive to confidence. How do you talk to yourself? Are you patient and understanding, or do you tend toward negativity? Grabbing hold of those mental put-downs will preserve self-confidence. Using more positive statements will build it up.

 

They Start Over

 

The only sure way to fail is to do the same thing, in exactly the same way, when you’ve already failed the first time. Rather than force failure onto yourself and eradicate confidence, revamp the strategy. Ask yourself how you can do things differently this time.

 

They Keep Trying

 

Persistence pays off. If you fail and stop, you’ll always think of yourself as a failure. It’s the person who gets up and tries again who builds confidence as they go. 

 

In the end, the only way to reclaim your confidence is to put intentional work into recovering it. By using these tips, you’ll get there. Recognize the process can sometimes be slow, but success truly does still lie within your grasp, even after a setback.