Showing posts with label Anger. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Anger. Show all posts

Friday 4 August 2023

8 Techniques That Stop Anger in its Tracks

You can’t believe they did it. Of all people, turning on you this way. You want to react in kind, drawing on the anger flowing through you to lash out. Make the other person hurt every bit as much as you do right now.


Wait a minute. You can’t. You’re not that person. You don’t want to BE that person. You’re better than this.


But how do you stop anger in its tracks before it gets the best of you?


Take a Walk


The physical act of walking will burn off some of the adrenaline while getting outside, giving you a distracting change in scenery. And it works even better if you’re walking away from the object of your anger. Sometimes all you need is some space.


Pay Attention to your Muscles


Like walking, exercise is good. Also, anger tends to tighten you up, so a good stretch, or even better practicing progressive muscle relaxation, will knock the tension out.


Say Something


Choose a pet phrase or mantra which calms you. Say it several times, slowly, and deliberately to put your focus elsewhere.




Escape somewhere else. Remove yourself from the situation that has made you mad and find a quiet place where you can visualize something peaceful. Build in as much detail as you can to make it as real as possible. Stay in this vision until you feel yourself start to calm down. 


Do Something Grand


Take your anger and turn it into activism. How can you use this to change the world? Sign (or start!) a petition. Volunteer.  Get involved in the community and make the world a better place. 


Write About It


Journaling can help you to work through your emotions in a way that might even help prevent you from getting mad the next time around. Understanding what it was about the event which triggered you will help reshape the trigger entirely.


Switch Perspective


It can be hard to use empathy when you’re upset. But if you can see things from their perspective, it might help you to calm your response. Many times anger comes from misunderstanding the situation.




This technique falls under expert level of anger management. By being the bigger person and forgiving the other, you’ll find you no longer have reason to be mad at all.


The key to all of these is simple: don’t let anger take control. The last thing you need is for you to fall under the power of negative emotion. Use the anger to make a better place or let it go entirely. In the end, you’ll be happier you did.


Saturday 19 March 2022

Anger Affecting the Body

Anger affects our body in many ways. When we are angry we often feel stressful, betrayed, hurt, our body is tense and our stomach is in knots. When we feel this way, the world seems to tumble around us and our best friend has packed up and left us behind. The loneliness creeps in and often we feel that the whole world is an illusion and everyone is out of his or her minds. 


There are times we want to run and hide and there are times we simply want to find the source that caused our hurt and beat them to a bloody pulp. We know we cannot do this since it is illegal and it does not help our problems. 


Rather when we blow up fusing our anger on someone else, we are only adding heartache to heartache. Sometimes we all fail to see that there is a solution to many problems, but when we use up our last resources and nothing is left then where do we turn? How do we find our way out? If you are feeling like there is nothing left in the world for you and that, you have run out of answers to the many questions then you are not alone.


One effective way to look at your situation is to know that someone else is suffering worse than you are. Forcing your mind to remain positive can help when times are tough to deal with. When you have been betrayed, robbed, manipulated, lied to, hurt and you feel that the person is getting away with something. 


Remember, the bad people always pay a higher price than what they induce on the victim. It may take some time, but you will see in the end that the bad person will pay a high price for his or her behavior. 


If you have been victimized, rather than venting your anger in a negative light, trying using your intellect and resources to enforce that the source is paying for the crime committed against you. If you are merely struggling from common problems then remember sufficient for each day and take it one day at a time. 


Try to find some humor in your situation. Laughter is always a source for relieving anger. When you feel your stomach knot, try to focus on something positive and go do your chores. Anytime we burn energy, we are burning emotions that are the root of anger. If you enjoy writing, sit down and write an article, book, story, or a simple journal. Write down your feelings, how you view the world, and the people in the world. 


Try to find a way to put some humor between the lines so that you can laugh when you look back at what you wrote. If your body is tense go for a walk and try to admire the beautiful scenery that God provided us. Remember when you are walking that something good comes from bad. This may not make sense, but if you look back at your many problems and how you dealt with them, you will see a series of good fortunes that came your way. 


We can all make more of a situation than what really exists and we all need to stay focused to survive the game of life. If you feel that you are centered out for punishment, then think of the men in war, the children in abused homes, or the wives that are tortured by their own spouse. Now look at your situation again. Are you homeless? Do you have a roof over your head? Do you have food in your kitchen? Do you have your bills paid? If this is true then why are you mad? 


Anytime we are angered, our body is affected and this causes harm to our health. Is anything worth destroying your self-being, including your body and mind? Is anything worth losing your respect? If you are angry, think before you act, because impulsive behavior leads to problems that are more complicated. When you feel like the world is tumbling down, pick up your torture stake and walk another mile. 


Anger Control

It is often difficulty to maintain control of your impulses when others around us make us mad. It is even more difficult when the prices in the economy increases every year, and the legal and political system is constantly putting more demands on us every day. 


Most of us deal with the stressors in life as they come our way, but some of us get out of control. Management is often the solution for treating anger; however, the person must be willing to admit their actions are causing more problems. When a person acts out violently, verbally abusive, assault and so on it not only causes problem for the person out of control, it also causes problems for others. 


Often when a person has anger issues he or she will attack others whether physically or mentally. The angered person will often attack in a way that belittles, humiliates, harms, or threatens another life. This person will need to learn to control his or her anger, since everyone around him or her is in a degree of danger, and sometimes more danger than others. 


Anger is the inability to restrain the impulses, desires and emotions. When a person is out of contact with his emotions, it often creates a chaotic mind. When a person is threatened, it is always good to have a degree of anger to protect. 


However when a person does not have control then it can lead to trouble. Anger, sadness, joy and happy are all parts of our emotions, and when we have those emotions in control we often live a productive life. However, when we seem to a target of attack then it is more difficult for us to manage our life and anger. 


For example, some children go to school and each day a bully will antagonize this child pushing him beyond his or her control. The child may hold his feelings in for a period, but eventually he or she is going to lose control, since none of us is willing to continue allowing someone to make our lives miserable. 


Unfortunately, when this child reaches his or her limits and returns the attack on the child, he then becomes the culprit and is often punished. The bully too many times gets away with his behavior, and once the victim takes action he or she is often punished. The school personnel will often say why didn’t you tell me what was going on? However, the fact is the child most likely told the personnel and in my experiences, they rarely act. Now we have two children with anger problems and more people in trouble. This is only one of the many reasons why a person cultivates anger to a degree of explosion. 


Each time we are angry we feel it in our body and mind. Our body will often tense when we feel angry. If you feel this tension then it is time to step back and take control. Why am I mad? Why do I feel this way? Asking yourself questions can help you find the answers if you search your mind hard enough. 


Usually after a person has developed a level of anger that is out of control, they will often strike out at persons even if there is no justifiable cause. The person could have moved something that belonged to that person and they will react by saying something like you stupid moron, why in the hell did you move my belongings? I cannot believe how stupid you are. Why do you bother breathing? This is only a few examples of a verbal attack issued by an angered person. The person may attack physically by kicking, hitting, punching, spitting, or causing other types of harm to the person. 


It is important to get management in play if you have anger problems. If you cannot control your emotions then one day, someone will control them for you. Anger is good if you have it under control, but when you lose control someone, someday will pay and that someone in many cases will be you as well as the trail of victims behind you. 


Anger Coping Techniques

Coping with anger is essential, since when we explode in uproars we are only causing more problems. Anger develops throughout the years, while we grow to adults. We may have lived in a normal environment, but our parents may have dramatized some of the natural growing processes while we were children. When this happens, it affects our developing process and we may grow up lacking coping skills. 


One example can be seen when a child is frequently punished as a child and rarely complimented for his or her behaviors. The parents were probably not aware of the damage they were causing, since the child will probably grow up punishing his or her self each time a mistake is made. Most mistakes have no lasting effect on our lives, unless it is something serious. 


Therefore, instead of beating yourself up review your mistakes and learn from them. If you practice positive thinking you will fare better when your emotions are threatened, which means you will have control over your anger. 


One great way to look at anger is that it is a positive force, however when it is utilized inappropriately then it is a negative force. Either we allow our anger to control us, or we control our anger. Control is what matters to everyone, since if we do not have control then we are frustrated easy. 


One great coping strategy is learning self-talk. Take 15 minutes out of each day to review your thoughts and talk them over with yourself. If you have a series of negative thoughts, such as I am a failure. Then you want to ask yourself why you are a failure. Review all the good things you do each day and commend yourself and when you see your mistakes remember everyone makes mistakes and there are probably no consequences to the mistake you made. 


If you get angry easy and break things, or yell and scream think of the consequences when you are reviewing your day. If you break things then you made a mess and it needs to be cleaned up. This means you have to work an extra few minutes during the day to clean up your mess. You resolved nothing and the item you broke if of valuable would cost you when you replace it. This means you wasted time, energy and money. If you yell or scream when you are angry then you are upsetting your heart, nerves, mind, and body. This means that in the end you may have long-term medical conditions. Now you can look at positive anger. If you take a few short breaths, you might find that your anger is unjustifiable. 


On the other hand, if there is justifiable cause for your anger you might want to slow down think for a few minutes and find a way to stress your emotions without interrupting your body, mind and health. If you think about a person that throws honey instead of fuelling the fire often gets further than those that blow up out of anger. If you are obsessively running through each day without slowing down then you need a coping strategy to help you deal with the stress. It is important to set a schedule in motion for yourself so that you find time for you. When you pamper you then you are taking a step to coping with your anger. 


When you have, many tasks set up during a day then make a list of what needs done first. Do not procrastinate; rather handle one task at a time. When you finish a task, it is often smoother when handling other tasks. 


It is important to remember that you are a human being and that you are not a superman or woman. Another great strategy is remembered that nothing is permanent. If you set yourself up for failure most likely, you will fail. If you believe something will happen and later find that it did not then you set yourself of for stress. Taking it one day at a time is often the best solution and repeating this over in your mind daily can help you cope with your anger. 

Anger in Review

When we review the source of our anger, it often helps us to see the answers we missed when our emotions had control. Emotions are our makeup and they control our anger, sadness, joy and all other aspects of our thinking if we let it. If you are having difficulty managing your emotions, you most likely suffer anxiety, depression and become uncontrollable when your anger bursts. 


The best solution then is writing down your emotions and thoughts on paper and search for the triggers that interrupted your emotions. For example, I was involved in an incident that caused my mind’s image to break off into fragments. I am unable to review the entire episode that created the chaos in my head. The incident caused my nerves to shatter, which led to anxiety attacks and periodical depression episodes. I cannot cope with everyday life and I often try to avoid people to minimize the conflict in my life. I have flashbacks on occasions that upset my nerves and emotions and when someone triggers me, I want to strike out and hurt them as they have hurt me. 


We are dealing with posttraumatic stress disorder in this experience; therefore, we need a coping strategy that works best for us. We see that the anger is going to get the best of the individual if he or she does not find a way to control the emotions that causes an uproar leading to anger outbursts. 


First, this person cannot stand to be around loud noises so staying away from crowds is best for now. Finding a safe haven in your home and a quite environment often works best to prevent anger and stress outbreaks. You might want to take Ginkoba for alertness to help enhance your mind. You might even want to visit a mental health expert and ask for a prescription that helps deal with posttraumatic stress disorders. Trazadone is great for relieving nightmares and night sweats, which are symptoms of posttraumatic stress disorder. Vitamin C and Vitamin B-Complex are also great to enhance the mind and help a person cope with stress. If you have difficulty focusing, which is another symptom included in the diagnose then you might want to focus on smaller tasks and move ahead to bigger tasks when you are ready. 


Learn to relax. Taking deep breaths before your emotions erupt is often good for dealing with anger. Yoga and exercise are great for helping the body and mind to relax. If you struggle with emotions its best to find out what works best for you and practice each day relaxing approaches to healing. It is important to pamper yourself and avoid stress and stressors as much as possible. Remember you are at a greater risk of anger explosion more so than the common people in society are. The diagnose formally known as ‘war shock’ will take you boldly where no one will ever go. It is important to learn the symptoms and find a way to deal with it accordingly. Learning is growing and when your mind grows, it is developing a great survival strategy. Remember when you are overly stressed your body is affected gravely. Your diagnose puts you at a deeper risk, since anxiety and stress levels of posttraumatic stress disorder opens the door to heart attacks and strokes. Eventually you will need to face the trauma that put you in this state of mind. 


Therefore, I highly recommend that you write every day. Role-playing is also great for these diagnoses and will reduce anger and emotions. Sit down in a comfortable area and pretend someone in the chair across from you loves you. The person has your best interest at heart. Now begin telling your imaginary friend the problems you are dealing with and what you are feeling inside. If you are feeling angry, tell the person how you feel and why you are feeling this way if possible. If you need to punch something soft, so you will not get hurt. 


Finally, vent all your energy and anger by vocalizing to your imaginary friend and when you finish review your scene carefully. Put the anger in review and take charge of your position when you see that your anger is not out of your reach. 


Conquering Anger

When you are conquering anger, you are taking control of your life. We all lose control from time to time, but if anger is getting the best of you each time you are rejected, frightened, or interrupted emotional then there is obviously a problem existing. 


If you feel you have a problem controlling your anger you might need anger management therapy or mental health services. You might even visit your doctor to see if a medical condition is not contributing to your anger. It depends on the person, but in most instances, we all deal with distresses, stress, and aggravation most of our lives. It is learning how to deal with it that counts. 


Anger is an emotion than can cause us more trouble that what existed causing the problem in the first place. Self-control is often needed if two or more people are involved in a conflict. If more than one person is angered in this group then problems will occur if both parties are striking out at each other. 


Problems often get deeper when anger bursts occur. When anger is controlling our society, we will always have crimes, abuse, violence, health issues, heart attacks, mental illnesses, and so forth. As you can see, nothing good comes from uncontrolled anger. 


After careful study the statistics of angry emotions has concluded that all of us have the ability to kill, harm, injure, or sabotage another person’s life. When a person is angry is often a result of threatened emotions, such as hurt of our self-importance, rejections, difficult to deal with prospects, and antagonistic flight of the imaginations. 


Most of us are selfish and will often consider self rather than considering others first. When we do not get our way sometimes, we might blow a fuse and strike at the target that made us mad. Our actions often prove failure since it leads to more problems. If both parties are screaming at each other it often instils additional anger that builds up and remains there until the opportunity is available to blow another fuse. This goes on and on and nothing is resolved. 


Our countries have a higher divorce rate than ever and it is often because the couples could not come to a term of agreement. Now if one person out of each home is using their head in the heat of the moment then we have a hope. We can see in one example how anger got in the way and caused a major problem. A couple is off work for the day and the man is irritable and snaps as his wife. His wife loses her cool and shouts at the husband calling him a stupid jerk. She continues to scream at him telling him that he does not respect her and finally he loses his cool and joins in the screaming match. 


The two argue and scream at each other for short time and then the wife turns on her heels and storms in the bedroom slamming the door behind her. She yells through the door, by the way you are sleeping on the couch tonight jerk.


Now if the wife would have said honey you seem irritable is there something I can do to ease your mind. Is there a problem we can work through together? What do you think would happen if the tables were turned and the wife approached the husband lovingly and offering her support? The couple would be sleeping together in their bedroom enjoying a peaceful rest most likely. We can look at another example were the anger is a little more out of control. 


For example, what if the wife is menstruating and she is irritable and her husband is tired of her rejecting him. Now he approaches his wife and calls her a selfish witch. She shouts at him and tells him he is not respecting her feelings, and he then starts shouting back at the wife. The wife gets mad at her husband and slaps him across the face, punching and kicking him as her anger increases. 


Now we see we got a serious problem in front of us, and one or the other is leaving because they are tired of the other. Now if the couple would have took a deep breath and stayed away from the other it might have proved effective later. However, if the husband would have been supported to his wife’s emotions during her monthly cycle we would most likely had good results and a problem on top of the existing problem would not exist. Uncontrolled anger is selfish and it hurts others, therefore we must all learn how to manage our anger and emotions.