A Fresh Look at Self-Care with 10 Practices to Get You Started

Self-care should be an integral part of anyone’s life as it is one of the key ways to better health, emotional wellbeing and stress reduction. We can take intentional steps as we practice self-care for our mind, body and spirit. 

 

Self-care isn’t just about spa days, bubble baths, or treating yourself to an occasional dessert, even though these actions are certainly a part of it. It’s about deeply understanding what you need to thrive emotionally, physically, and mentally. 

 

It’s the ongoing practice of prioritizing your wellbeing so that you can live more vibrantly and authentically. It is often said that you must give yourself permission for self-care and that is because it is an intentional and deliberate action that is ultimately the responsibility of the individual. 

 

Self-care encompasses a wide range of activities and practices, including:

 

• Physical self-care: Exercising, eating nutritious food, and ensuring you get enough rest.

• Emotional self-care: Engaging in activities that help you process your emotions, such as journaling or speaking to a therapist.

• Mental self-care: Stimulating your mind with new knowledge, reading, creative projects, or simply taking a break from work to prevent burnout.

• Spiritual self-care: Connecting with practices that give you a sense of purpose and peace, such as meditation, prayer, or spending time in nature.

Self-Care Benefits

 

• Enhances Productivity and Focus

• Reinforces Self-Worth and Self-Love

• Helps you manage stress

• Benefits emotional, mental and physical health

• In its most simple terms, it is an act of prioritizing yourself

 Breaking Down Barriers to Self-Care

 

Despite understanding its importance, many people struggle to integrate self-care into their daily lives. Common barriers include:

 

• Guilt: Many people feel guilty taking time for themselves, especially when they have responsibilities to family, work, or friends.

• Time constraints: The perception that there’s “no time” for self-care.

• Cultural norms: Societal pressures often glorify overworking and undervalue rest.

 

The first step to overcoming these barriers is reframing the way we view self-care. It’s not an optional activity for when you’ve finished everything else, it’s an integral part of being able to do everything else. Self-care should be seen as non-negotiable.

10 Self-Care Practices

1. Take the First Step Towards Self-Care

 

If self-care feels like a foreign concept or an added burden, start small. It could be as simple as dedicating 10 minutes of your day to something you enjoy. Over time, as you begin to experience the positive effects, you’ll start to see self-care not as a task but as an act of self-respect and love.

2. Nature Walks

 

Take a walk in a local park, forest, or even your backyard. Walking in nature helps to clear your mind and reconnect with the world outside. Studies show that a walk of only 20 minutes can lower stress levels and improve your mental health.

3. Mindful Morning Ritual

 

Start your day with a morning ritual that centers you. This could include five minutes of deep breathing, gentle stretching, or journaling about your intentions for the day. This practice helps you enter the day with a calm mind and sets a positive tone for whatever comes your way.

4. Take Your Pet to The Park

 

Our pets are some of our nearest and dearest friends, and spending time with them is a way to care for ourselves as well. You and your pet will benefit from the change of scenery and have a chance to forget your worries as you connect. The park can help you both get more exercise, get some air in your lungs, and meet new people and animals. 

5. Organize Your Catch-All Drawer

 

This is one of those beneficial projects you can do in tiny increments to promote peace of mind and a slow release of tension and clutter. 

 

To pick away at your most cluttered drawer in increments, you can:

 

• Get a drawer organizer.

• Look for items that should be attached to a ring, clip, lanyard, or similar item.

• Remove a few items at a time to clean, lubricate, polish, repair, or degrease them.

• Collect thumbtacks, coins, paper clips, tape, magnets, string, clips, and other small items that need a mini organizer. 

6. Stretch And Relax On Your Mat

 

Make the most of your stretching routine by researching stretching techniques that make you feel good without straining your muscles. You can do very small shoulder stretches, moderate whole-body stretches, or deeper ones you already have experience with. Take a 10-minute rest on your back after your routine for deeper relaxation. 

7. Schedule A Spa Day Or Massage

 

Whether you love facials, mud or clay treatments, deep tissue massage, or body wraps, scheduling something will help you unwind and take better care of yourself. Spur-of-the-moment experiences are always good too. 

8. Sleep An Extra Hour At Night

 

An hour more sleep has been shown to improve the health of young participants who got at least 43 more minutes per night in one study by Penn State researchers. Try eating dinner an hour earlier with food that promotes sleep, a relaxing evening routine and go to bed earlier to get that extra hour. 

9. Take A 15-Minute Nap

 

Many people would be amazed at the power of a fifteen-minute nap. According to Mayo Clinic, “Keep naps short. A 20- to 30-minute nap is ideal. Try not to snooze more than 30 minutes on a regular basis. The longer you nap, the more likely you are to feel groggy afterward. Take naps in the early afternoon. Napping after 3 p.m. can make it harder for you to sleep soundly at night. Factors such as your need for sleep, sleeping schedule, age and medicine use also can play roles in figuring out the best time of day to nap. Create a restful space. Nap in a quiet, dark place with a comfortable room temperature. Limit distractions such as TVs, computers, phones and other devices.”

10. Read A Book Or Magazine You Love

 

Few things refresh your mind, relax you and help you care for yourself like reading a book you love or a magazine that truly interests you. 

Final Thoughts

 

Self-care isn’t selfish; it’s essential. It’s the foundation that allows you to show up fully in all aspects of your life. It fuels your energy, enhances your resilience, and reinforces the belief that you deserve care.

 

By investing time and effort into your well-being, you pave the way for a richer, more fulfilling life. Embrace self-care as a gift to yourself, and watch how it transforms your mindset, relationships, and overall quality of life.

References

 

Stock, A.A., et al. (2019) Effects of sleep extension on sleep duration, sleepiness, and blood pressure in college students. Sleep Health. doi.org/10.1016/j.sleh.2019.10.003.

 

https://www.news-medical.net/news/20191120/Study-Just-one-extra-hour-of-sleep-can-provide-health-benefits-for-college-students.aspx

 

https://www.betterup.com/blog/self-care-practices

 

6 Ways to Add Intensity to Your Life

You know that high energy, positivity, and enthusiasm are the things that will propel you towards success, right? But how do you keep your intensity levels high day in, day out? What can you do to stay motivated and get yourself the life you want?

 

Here are 6 ways you can add intensity to your life right now. 

 

1. Choose Intensity

 

One of the most powerful things you can do is to act enthusiastically, even if you’re not feeling it. Choose to live intensely, behave as if you had that level of intensity, and before you know it your energy is high, your enthusiasm is infectious, and you’re doing it!

 

2. Make Time for Your Passion

 

It’s easy to let the days go by thinking you don’t have time to improve your running or your drawing or learn that language. But if you make the commitment to focus on your passion for just fifteen or twenty minutes a day, you’ll find your enthusiasm rising. You’ll be enjoying life intensely. 

 

3. Take Care of Yourself

 

Proper self-care is vital if you want to increase the intensity in your life. Keeping your energy and motivation high is easier if you’re eating well, making sure you get enough sleep and getting some regular exercise. 

 

Prioritize you and see how it affects your energy levels. 

 

4. Be Kind to Yourself

 

Learning to practice self-compassion is key for adding intensity to your life. Being kind to yourself means noticing how you feel, it means cutting yourself some slack and pulling back on the judging. Notice your self-talk and see if it’s sapping or building your intensity. 

 

5. Practice Meditation

 

Intensity and meditation might seem like odd bedfellows, but think about it. Research has shown that meditation and mindfulness practice help to increase brain function. Regular meditation practice, even if it’s only for ten or fifteen minutes a day, has been shown in increase grey matter in your brain. Think of the potential for those extra brain cells!

 

Meditation will also help lower your stress levels and increase your self-compassion. You’ll be more resilient, have more energy, and more enthusiasm. 

 

6. Notice the Good Things

 

Noticing and appreciating the good things in your life helps to rewire your mindset from negative to positive. If you see the good around you, you’ll come to expect that things will go well, and more good things will flow to you. 

 

Focusing on success and what is going well in your life helps to keep that intensity level high!

Give Yourself Permission For Self-Care

The practice of self-care means taking care of your physical and mental health and being aware that you must take care of yourself as the highest priority. Self-care increases stamina, reduces stress, and decreases the risk of illness, so we must treat ourselves as number one to thrive and be strong.

 

Still, we may think putting ourselves first is selfish or egotistical. Others are challenged with low self-esteem, making them feel like they don’t deserve to be first. Some people think they must do everything for everybody and will put aside their goals to assist others. These scenarios impact our self-esteem, keep us from pursuing our goals, and foster self-care neglect.

 

We must understand that if we don’t care for ourselves, we won’t be able to help anyone else, we may feel stressed, and our health suffers. When our mental or physical health is poor, we lose motivation and energy, and our quality-of-life decreases.

 

How can we treat ourselves compassionately and make self-care a part of our daily routine? 

 

About Self-Care

 

The World Health Organization explains that self-care is “the ability of individuals, families, and communities to promote health, prevent disease, maintain health, and cope with illness and disability with or without the support of a health worker.”

 

The National Library of Medicine published a study on the role of self-care related to stress and mental well-being during the COVID-19 pandemic. A tool, the Self-Care Activities Screening Scale (SASS-14), was used to evaluate the study participants. Four main areas were considered:

 

• Health consciousness

• Nutrition and physical activity

• Sleep quality

• Interpersonal and intrapersonal coping strategies

 

The result of the study is that self-care significantly improves our well-being. However, the higher a person’s perceived stress level, the more challenging it is to practice self-care.

 

Self-Care Basics

 

Reduction of perceived stress is essential for self-care. The following are basic strategies to help you cope with stress and lead you to a healthy lifestyle.

 

Embrace Healthy Foods: Nutritious meals can improve your energy and brain power. Healthy foods include fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean meats, fish and seafood, nuts and seeds, beans, low-fat dairy products, and unsaturated oils, such as olive oil. Avoid fried foods, salt, sugar, fast foods, cakes and pies, and too much caffeine. 

 

Sleep Well: The Sleep Health Foundation recommends that adults aged 18-64 sleep 7 - 9 hours and adults over 64 sleep 7 – 8 hours nightly. Avoid actions that might keep you awake at night, such as caffeine in the afternoon, using electronics before bedtime, and taking long naps during the day. You can foster a good night’s sleep by exercising during the day, going to sleep and waking up at the same time daily, and ensuring that your bedroom is quiet. 

 

Every Workout Counts: Exercise helps to relieve stress and make you stronger mentally and physically. Choose an activity that you enjoy, such as a brisk walk, and strive to exercise at least 30 minutes daily.

 

Stay Connected: Among many benefits, having good friends can relieve stress and promote happiness. The Mayo Clinic reports that friends help you cope with traumas, improve self-confidence, and reduce your risk of health problems.

 

Time Management and Boundaries: The night before, create a to-do list for the next day and prioritize each item. This “roadmap” for the day will help you focus on the tasks that must be completed. Work through your goals and tasks in priority order. Also, consider setting boundaries to prevent interruptions to your plan. For example, if you block out 3 hours to focus on a task, let those who need to know that you aren’t available during that time. 

 

Conclusion

Taking care of yourself is essential to reduce stress and reap the benefits of good health and happiness. In our busy lives, we may feel we don’t have time for self-care, thus impacting our health and energy and limiting our capacity to help others. Remember that you are not being selfish by treating yourself as number one and setting boundaries is not rude. These are necessary concepts to help you cope with stress and boost your well-being.

 

References

 

https://www.who.int/health-topics/self-care#tab=tab_1

 

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8678542/

 

https://www.sleephealthfoundation.org.au/sleep-topics/how-much-sleep-do-you-really-need

 

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/friendships/art-20044860

 

Breaking The Chains: The Power Of Releasing Your Past

As important as the past is for learning lessons and remembering successes, it's equally important that you don't let the past keep you chained there. 

 

Like the stereotypical high school jock who perpetually lives in the past because those were the best days of his life. Or the woman who can't build healthy relationships because never recovered from her college boyfriend's infidelity. 

 

The negative parts of our past have a way of clinging on, wrapping its tendrils around you and despite your attempts at remaining in the present, the chains of the past remain wrapped tight. You carry the weight of those chains into every experience, and whether it's negative or positive, it has a powerful impact on your present life. There can be great power in releasing your past and breaking those chains. 

 

Moving On

 

One of the greatest challenges people face is breaking free from the chains of their past. It could be a past mistake, a stinging heartbreak, or trauma from a difficult experience; all of your life experiences impact your emotional and mental well-being. 

 

Dwelling on the past, however, will only keep you anchored to a period of time that you should have left behind. That time no longer exists, yet it's rooting you there and preventing you from living in the here and now. 

 

The first step to breaking those chains is acknowledging your past and accepting it. It's an essential part of the process, you have to confront the unresolved emotions and pain that you've buried deep, which will require self-reflection and a whole lot of courage. By facing your past head-on, you remove the power it holds over your present moment and the future. 

 

Forgiveness is another step necessary to break those chains. Whether it's forgiving yourself or someone else, a lot of people hold onto grudges over things that happened. It's important to remember that forgiveness doesn't mean that you forget what happened. 

 

If someone hurt you or wronged you, forgiving them isn't forgetting the harm they caused you. It doesn't mean making up and being friends either. It's a conscious decision to let go of the painful emotions that have lingered since the experience. Forgiveness isn't for them, it's for you. 

 

The Power 

 

Perhaps one of the most vital aspects of breaking free from the past's chains is self-compassion. 

 

Self-compassion simply means that you treat yourself with the same understanding and kindness you extend to your closest friends. You treat them with care, and you offer them a gentle response, but you are your own worst enemy – your harshest critic. You hold yourself to an impossible standard and when you slip up, you give yourself merry hell. Self-compassion provides a nurturing environment to foster healing and growth. 

 

Mindfulness is another powerful tool for breaking the chains of your past. 

 

Mindfulness is all about focusing on the present moment, observing your thoughts without judgment, and acknowledging your feelings without opinion. Mindfulness practices like deep breathing, meditation, and body scanning help you develop the ability to let go of the past, dismiss intrusive thoughts, and focus on the beauty of the moment. 

 

An essential part of personal development as a whole, and particularly breaking chains, is setting boundaries. Boundaries protect you from negative behaviors, and repeating patterns, and help you use your time and energy more wisely. Boundaries help you create space for change and growth. 

 

Final Thoughts 

 

While the process of breaking the chains of your past can be difficult, it is possible. Above, you have a step-by-step process to do just that. It will take some time, but if you're committed to the process, you will need a combination of self-awareness and forgiveness, self-compassion, and mindfulness, as well as boundary-setting. 

 

Work on establishing a forward-focused mindset because this journey will require resilience and dedication. In return, you will benefit on a profound level. Your life will be free from the burdens of the past and filled with an endless number of possibilities. As you let go of the past, you open yourself to growth, healing, and the recognition of your potential. 

 

Unburden Your Heart: The Path To Letting Go Of Grudges And Resentment

Negative emotions such as anger and bitterness can be triggered when someone hurts you by saying or doing something offensive. It’s challenging to let go, to forgive, and the feelings of resentment linger, weighing you down and making your heart feel heavy.

A study published by Springer Link confirms that “Bearing grudges is associated with a history of pain disorders, cardiovascular disease, and stomach ulcers.”  Holding grudges and resentment is linked to a higher risk of heart attack, disease, high blood pressure, arthritis, back pain, headaches, and chronic pain. In addition, the anger from resentment can cause mental health problems such as anxiety and depression.

It’s in your best interest to move past the hurt caused by others to protect your health and well-being. There are strategies to free yourself of resentment.

Why Do We Struggle to Let Go?

A 2021 analysis by researchers explored why we hold resentment and found that our self-esteem is a factor. Humans need validation, meaning we want others to agree with our actions or beliefs. Otherwise, we feel morally inferior, becoming defensive and increasing the difficulty of accepting and forgiving others.

In some cases, people simply have an inability to let go and forgive. People who haven’t achieved forgiveness may have a longer latency period, meaning it takes them more time to think about the incident and arrive at any response. The hurt exists but has not been revealed yet - the bad feelings can become overpowering.

 

Strategies for Moving Forward

 

The following are strategies that can help you recover from being hurt.

Meditation

 

Mindfulness Meditation helps you explore and understand your pain while reducing stress. It calms negative thoughts and restores a positive focus. The keys to mindfulness meditation are to be aware of your breathing and living in the moment. Mindfulness can give you peace of mind and improve your self-acceptance. You can learn to practice mindfulness meditation online, or your community may offer meditation classes.

 

Practice Forgiveness

 

Be aware of the emotions that you are feeling and recognize how those feelings are impacting your physical and mental health and your behavior. Accept the feelings and the situation that occurred. You are in control, not the person that caused the event. You have the power to forgive and move on with your life.

 

Be Compassionate

 

The person who caused you to be distressed may be having issues that affect their behavior, such as the death of a loved one, a bad relationship, or low self-esteem. Think about your past interactions with the person. Are they typically pleasant and non-confrontational? Is their behavior different than in the past? Being empathetic and kind can help you to achieve forgiveness.

 

Self-Distancing

 

Research by psychologists Ozlem Ayduk and Ethan Kross found that self-distancing is significantly beneficial in overcoming the negative feelings caused by grudges and resentment. Self-distancing entails thinking about the situation from a third-person perspective rather than an active participant perspective. 

 

Envision that you’re watching actors in a movie replay the situation that occurred. This technique helps you to see the “big picture’, increasing your ability to cope with the past and have a broader perspective on the event.

 

Conclusion

 

It is human nature to be angry, sad, or upset when someone’s words or actions hurt us. Holding onto anger and resentment is harmful to your health and well-being. While it can be difficult to forgive and move on, it’s in your best interest to do so. The preceding techniques can help you to cope, forgive, and unburden your heart.

 

References

 

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00127-009-0054-0

 

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4384185/

 

https://abbymedcalf.com/the-key-to-letting-go-of-resentment/

 

https://www.mindful.org/how-to-meditate/

 

Mayo Clinic

 

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20438226/