Stop Limiting Yourself

Do you feel like something is holding you back? 

 

Does it feel like something is limiting you, keeping you from your ideal life and best self? 

 

Could that something be you?

 

We all can have a tendency to hold ourselves back and limit ourselves from our full potential and ideal life. There are a couple of reasons why this could happen: fear, comfort, the list goes on and on. In this article, we’re going to help you stop limiting yourself, push past it, and succeed!

 

What do you want?

 

The first step in finally stopping limiting yourself is to list out what you want. You can’t ever expect to stop limiting yourself or to get what you want out of life if you don’t make it clear to yourself what it is you want.

 

In order to manifest what you want into reality, you have to know what you want and think about your goals regularly. When making your “want” list, focus and think long and hard. The goals on this list should be clear and concise, achievable, and things you actually want out of life.

 

Don’t psych yourself out

 

The mind is a powerful, powerful thing. If you’ve already been having trouble limiting yourself, you’re familiar with your mind’s ability to psych you out. Don’t let it talk you out of what you truly want in life. 

 

Push past your fears and your holdbacks. You’re capable of accomplishing anything you put your mind to and achieving anything you want in life. If you find this part a struggle, try telling yourself just how capable you are. Repeat to yourself that nothing can keep you from achieving your goals.

 

Step outside your comfort zone

 

A big part of stopping limiting yourself is stepping outside of your comfort zone. This is how you push past the fear that’s been holding you back. You have to keep yourself taking risks and pushing outside what makes you comfortable.

 

Staying in your comfort zone is a big part of what causes you to stagnate and limit yourself. There is never a limit you set yourself that you can’t push past. The only thing holding you back from your ideal life is you.

 

Track your progress

 

One of the best ways to ensure you keep trying to reach your goals and refusing to be limited is by tracking your progress. A little positive reinforcement will help you stay positive about your goal and seeing your progress will help to keep you motivated.

 

You’ve worked hard to stop the habit of limiting yourself, you deserve to reward yourself. Monitoring yourself and your progress will help to keep you on track to reach your goals, drive your motivation, and encourage you to keep at it.

 

Take what you want

 

The last step in stopping limiting yourself is to start taking what you want. You’ve worked hard to overcome your struggle with limiting yourself, now it’s time to actually take what you want. Be confident and assert yourself in the workplace. Seize new opportunities and take risks to further yourself and get the life you desire.

 

 

If you’ve found yourself to be limited or held back, it may be time for some self-reflection. Are you holding yourself back? Are you limiting yourself from achieving what you want in life? We hope this article has helped guide you in ending this habit once and for all and get what you want out of life.

 

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• Manifestation

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• Staying focused and reaching your goals

• How to be the best version of yourself

 

The Limitless Possibilities When You Believe In Yourself

Every one of us is a wealth of limitless potential. 

 

Do you believe that to be true?

 

Somewhere between 50,000 and 2 million years ago (experts aren’t exact on this because the spoken work didn’t leave a paper trail), humans started to use language. Those beings on the front line couldn’t have imagined how language would evolve over the years. It’s potential was limitless. We use language to make music, to express our emotions through poetry and prose. To communicate with the people in the world around us. Then, there’s the comedy – from fun rhymes to puns to standard jokes. It’s beautiful and it’s an integral aspect of life as we know it. 

 

Some 5,000 years ago, humans started a written language system. It’s not something that everyone could do or was doing, but it began. For some, the idea of learning how to write would have sounded ludicrous. That’s something for highly intelligent people, not for just anyone. 

 

The Cycle of Success

 

That cycle has continued throughout the history of humanity. Someone unlocks something incredible and others don’t believe they have the potential to share in it. Yet, look at us now. The same thought process followed science, math, and even business. The truth is, everyone is capable. Right now, there are people out there living a normal life, completely unaware that they are a wealth of untapped potential. You could be a math genius; your child might be a music prodigy. All you need is the belief that it’s possible. 

 

Belief. More importantly, self-belief. Highly successful people have it and when you do, you recognize that the possibilities in life are limitless. With just a bit of coaching, a push for more knowledge or better training, think of what you could do. Typically, successful people believe in brilliance, not just their own, but that of others as well. This belief empowers them to develop brilliance in others and tap into their own hidden potential. They have successfully dismissed the limiting belief that they are limited in their abilities. Instead, they believe and recognize that they can do great things. When you explore the limits, you will surely see that they do not exist. 

 

The Genesis of Limiting Beliefs

 

It all begins during your childhood. You accept the words of others as fact. A teacher suggested you’d never amount to anything. Your friend is so full of confidence about their abilities that you believed them when they said they’re better than you. You struggled with math homework and your dad said you were terrible at math. None of those things were necessarily factual, yet you believed them. Worse, they’re ingrained in you and as an adult, you might not realize that you still hold them. They’re limiting you nonetheless. 

 

You will only be able to move forward when you accept that you are capable of anything. Let go of the beliefs that are limiting you, and embrace your potential. Imagine what life would be like for you if you were born into a world where you had access to the greatest education, nutrition, and opportunities in history. You couldn’t fail, right? Well, neither can you fail now if you put yourself to the test. The person you would be in that world is still the person you are now, it’s inside you. While the environment is different, you’re not, your potential isn’t. 

 

You are capable of developing your talents. You are capable and your potential is limitless. When you believe in yourself then possibilities are limitless. So, what will you use your power to achieve?

 

Understand Your Need To Overcome Limiting Beliefs

Your life experience influences the beliefs that you hold. The stronger they are, the easier it will be for you to find evidence that it’s true. The problem, though, is that the majority of the beliefs that you hold about yourself simply aren’t true. They are simply reflective of how you feel. You’ve just felt that way for so long, that it was easy to convince yourself it was true. 

 

There are all different kinds of limiting beliefs. We fall into traps such as, it’s not practical to dream, no one likes their job, marriage is for boring people, time is money, life isn’t fun for adults. None of those things are true, but you have these unconscious thoughts that have turned into beliefs. It’s not that you want to hold these limiting beliefs. You didn’t wake up one day and decide that this was how you were going to think. You have formed these beliefs based on the cues and opinions in your environment, starting in your childhood. You just think this is how it is, it’s the way things are. When you fall into these beliefs you think it’s too late to change because it’s a part of your identity.

 

The reality is that the things you view as the way it is… is just an assumption. A collective one, however, it’s an assumption, whether it’s conscious or not. It has become ingrained in you, it’s a habit now. You’re so used to holding these limiting beliefs that you identify with them at your very core. They hold more weight with you. 

 

So, what are limiting beliefs? Some of the most common ones include

 

• You don’t feel as though you’re enough 

• You don’t feel as though you have enough

• You don’t deserve success

• What’s yours?

 

Changing these beliefs seems daunting. You can, though, and here is how. 

 

Identification

 

The majority of limiting beliefs are difficult to budge because you identify with them. They have become a part of who you are and because of that, you allow them to define you. If you believe that you’re not particularly creative, then you will convince yourself you weren’t born with the ability to be creative. If you believe that you aren’t technologically minded, then you’re going to convince yourself you weren’t born with the ability to work with technology. So, the first step to overcoming your limiting beliefs is to stop identifying with them. Don’t let them define you. 

 

Conclusions

 

The beliefs you have and are convinced to be true are more flexible than you realize. What you think is necessary is likely more negotiable. Don’t be afraid to question your existing conclusions as to what you believe is possible, true or fixed. Kill those conclusions. 

 

Testing Assumptions

 

You can’t squelch your limiting beliefs if you aren’t willing to test your assumptions and push the boundaries. You have to break up the pattern of that limiting belief. The first step is questioning, which means you have to test your assumptions. Questioning is a great place to start, but you have to put it into action. Put your judgment aside, test your assumptions, and ask questions. 

 

It sounds simple, but these are the most basic steps to move beyond your limiting beliefs. It’s only the start. You have to also cultivate new beliefs that will empower you. It’s time that you understand just how important it is to overcome these limiting beliefs. They’re holding you back. What do you really want out of your life? If you don’t already have it, why is that? You can place the blame directly on your limiting beliefs. If you want to move on, you have to overcome. 

 

What Do Great Leaders Do?

There are a lot of resources out there on great leaders in history and how you can be more like them. But, what do great leaders actually do, and what does it mean to be a great leader?

 

A leader performs many tasks. Not all of these are dramatic and rewarding to the ego but all of them are important for moving your team towards its goal.

 

Leaders Organize

 

To be a great leader, you first have to be a leader and leaders... lead. At its bear basics, “leader” is an administrative position. It involves overseeing a task or a team and making sure that they are working towards their goal.

 

This is again, however, the very basic requirement. There are software programs and tools that technically fit this definition. Keeping people organized is what it means to be a leader, but not what it means to be a great leader.

 

Great Leaders Orchestrate And Inspire

 

Where leaders begin to become great is when they stop merely organizing and begin orchestrating. Much of a leader’s value is intrinsic, coming from their own talents and abilities. Much of it also comes from knowing how to take their resources and their teams and fitting them to the circumstance.

 

Great leaders don’t just make sure that their team members are sticking to task, they help to make sure that their team members are in the places where they can be of the most use.

 

Similarly, keeping team members on task becomes easier and more rewarding when you are able to inspire them. This can be done by stressing the importance of the task, but it can also be done by building camaraderie with the team. 

 

Too many people think that there is the team and then above the team there is the leader. As has been said before and will be said again, the leader is merely an administrative position on the team. Leaders have different responsibilities from the team, but they also share the same goals and often the same fate.

 

Leaders Mediate

 

Another one of the basic leadership jobs is mediating. This is another basic administrative task of the leader. Leaders hear their teams to help their teams deal with problems.

 

Sometimes this means solving disputes within the team, and sometimes it means helping the team deal with more systemic problems by helping to move their problem up the ladder.

 

Being a “middle man” is a role that few people passionately desire to fill. It is important, however. And like organizing, mediating is a role that leaders must perform but it is not the only thing that great leaders occupy their time with.

 

Great Leaders Create Lasting Change

 

Of course, great leaders don’t just mediate, they create systemic change. Most of the problems that people run into at their work are problems with the ways that things are done. It is often easier and faster to address these issues on a case-by-case basis. 

 

However, finding out why these problems arise and changing the system will mean that problems of that kind don’t appear as often.

 

Great leaders will also often make their roles as mediator less important by supplying education and resources that make it easier for other people to solve problems themselves. This frees up leaders to do more important things, even though creating or changing these systems takes time.

 

Too many people try to become great leaders before they become leaders. Being a great leader isn’t about delegating away all of the boring stuff so that you can give speeches and throw parties or whatever it is people think great leaders do. The best way to be a great leader is to know your job and do it well.

 

What Is Your Leadership Style?

There are a number of different leadership styles that you can use to keep your team working towards you goal. Most of the time, individuals have their own best leadership styles, though sometimes different styles are required to work with different teams or in different circumstances. This article will discuss some popular leadership styles as well as what kinds of people, teams, and situations they fit best.

 

Are You An Autocrat?

 

Autocratic leadership means that you’re the boss and you let everyone know about it. Autocratic leaders call all of the shots and aren’t usually receptive to recommendations or complaints from other people, specifically their team members. 

 

Autocratic leadership, of course, only knows when you know what you’re doing. It can also work if your team doesn’t know what they’re doing. Say for example, you’re running a new department in your company, or working with interns. Chances are your leadership is more valuable in these instances than listening to your team.

 

Of course, as your team begins to develop their skills, backing away from an autocratic style can help you to gain insights on how best to help your team, rather than just bossing them around.

 

Are You A Democratic Leader?

 

Democratic leadership is more or less the opposite of autocratic leadership. Democratic leadership involves working closely with your team to determine what they think is best rather than making all major decisions yourself.

 

Democratic leadership works best if you are taking over a leadership position in a new company, or if you are comfortable with leading but may not be familiar with the exact nature of your goal. Democratic leadership can also be the way to go if you are a “leader” because it is easier for one person to pass on all of the deliverables and give all of the updates, but you don’t really have any more experience or authority than other team members.

 

Democratic leadership can slow things down, however, so sometimes it can be important to make “executive decisions” to move things along.

 

Is Laissez-faire Right For You?

 

Laissez-faire leadership means that, as the leader, you basically do nothing. You delegate tasks to others and then let them call the shots.

 

Laissez-faire leadership can be particularly effective if your team is very large or if your leadership position is pretty high up the chain.

 

Of course, in order to engage in laissez-faire leadership, your team needs to be able to get on without you. If your team needs to be led by the hand everywhere, you’re probably better off using a more authoritative leadership style.

 

Is There A Place For Bureaucratic Leadership?

 

Bureaucratic leadership is similar to laissez-faire leadership in that it involves delegation of tasks to smaller committees within the larger team. This system of government is often derided for the time that it can take to perform certain tasks, but as a leadership style it can be surprisingly effective.

 

As a result, the limits of bureaucratic leadership are similar to the limits on laissez-faire leadership – you need to have a large team and you need to have quite a bit of authority within your organization. 

 

Your team needs to have fewer experts on your team, however, as the experts can be made the leaders of their own smaller teams. This method is most effective if the activities carried on by your team are very similar from day to day. Changing circumstances have a way of throwing off bureaucratic systems.

 

This article has only scratched the surface on the number of leadership styles that you can read about. Some might say that there is one leadership style for each leader. Still, finding out which leadership you like best can help you discover which leadership method you can use the most effectively. Of course, you should also consider your team and your situation when settling on a leadership style.

 

What Makes Great Leaders

Whether you’re trying to get a leadership position, or you’ve just entered one and aren’t sure what to do, there’s nothing wrong with wondering what makes great leaders. 

 

It’s a question that many have asked for strictly practical and strictly academic purposes. Books have been written on the subject, so feel free to do more research, but this article will try to point out just the big ones.

 

Focus

 

Good leaders are focused. That doesn’t mean that they are focused on a single thing so much as that they are focused on networks. To be a good leader, you have to understand yourself, you have to understand the people that you are leading, and you have to understand how the strengths of yourself and your team members can be best used to complete the task at hand.

 

While you may try to focus solely on the problem at hand, this may lead you to miss ques happening all around you. If you are a problem-oriented person, make time to dwell on the problem but also make time to think introspectively about yourself and how you are approaching the problem as well as time to spend talking and working with your team members to make sure that everyone’s strengths are being utilized.

 

Self-Awareness

 

Focusing on yourself is also important because in order to be a great leader you need to know yourself. As mentioned above, knowing your team is important too but as a leader you will serve as a uniting force that directs their strengths towards the goal. This will only work if you know yourself, have confidence in yourself, and move with a consistent direction and purpose.

 

Finding your leadership style can take a lifetime, but hopefully you already have your own personal style figured out. It’s okay if it matures with you – in fact it probably should – but it should be consistent enough that your team can follow your lead without getting dizzy.

 

Communication Skills

 

Being a good leader also requires communication skills. We often think of leaders as being charismatic or effective speakers, and while this is an important part of communication, it is only half of it.

 

Sometimes communication means rallying the troops and encouraging your team to work harder or to think more creatively.

 

Sometimes, however, communication means listening to your team. As a leader, you and the members of your team have one common goal, but you are likely to approach it in very different ways. Staying in touch with your team is an important way to learn about the progress that they are making as well as the obstacles that they face and possible ways to remove them.

 

Consistency

 

Of course, being a leader often means needing to make tough decisions. A recent study, however, suggests that good leaders all make tough decisions very consistently.

 

More specifically, good leaders make decisions that impact others the same way that they make decisions that impact themselves. This suggests skills like empathy – being able to relate to another person’s emotional state – as well as the ability to make decisions based on the good of the project rather than the good of individuals.

 

It also means seeing yourself as a part of the team. As mentioned above, the roles of leaders and other team members can be different. Both, however, should be seen as instruments of achieving the goal. A leadership position isn’t more important than a team position; a leadership position is a team position.

 

Different leaders have drastically different styles. To become a great leader, you shouldn’t have one great leader in mind because you will never be able to be that person. Rather than focusing on role models, focus on yourself and on developing your own strengths.

 

Why Don't You Believe In Yourself?

All you need for success is to believe in yourself. 

 

You’ve heard it before, right? The greatest teachers of success tell you that this is a true statement. There’s one small problem, they don’t take a moment to understand why you don’t believe in yourself, nor do they address how you can change it. 

 

A lot of people don’t believe in themselves and when they don’t, it’s incredibly difficult to deal with pain, failure, and rejection. Yet, failure is a necessary evil on the road to success.

 

Think about this for a moment – when you sit down and create a list of goals you’re relying on yourself. Yet, we rarely know our true worth. Often, we are the literal worst person to recognize our capabilities. So, how can you set goals for growth if you don’t know what you’re truly capable of?

 

The Struggle to Believe in Yourself

 

So, why are you so hard on yourself? You have a negative reflection of yourself, and it’s a representation of all the garbage you’re carrying around in your head. It’s that voice that constantly whispers that you’re not good enough, that you can’t do the thing or, that you shouldn’t push yourself. We all carry a negative reflection such as this, but the real problem is that you don’t believe in yourself. You don’t turn to your worst enemy if you are in need of support, do you? When you don’t believe in yourself, it’s difficult to turn to yourself for that belief. You’re doing it in the wrong order. First, you need someone who believes in you and then you need someone else to believe in. Finally, then you can believe in yourself. 

 

You need to find a new reflection. Someone who is capable of showing you your greatness. Think about the following: what type of support do you need right now in your life? Who would you like to turn to for that support? Why should they support you, what’s in it for them? What actions are you willing to take in order to get the support that you need? Once you have an idea in your head about whom you want to reflect your greatness back to you, speak to them! Ask them what it is that they get from you being in their life? What do they think your strengths are, and have them rate your relationship on a scale of one to ten. Ask them what you can do to push it to a 10. 

 

The Journey to Self-Belief

 

Believing in yourself ultimately means that you believe in your capabilities. How can you if you don’t know what they are? When you start to accomplish something, then you will finally start to be able to believe in yourself. In order to accomplish that first thing, you need someone to be the wind beneath your wings. You need someone who will lift you up to propel your self-belief. 

 

You probably know someone who constantly struggles, with holding down a job, finishing a project or even holding onto a relationship. Their lives are constantly plagued by stupid decisions. They don’t even try to change because deep down, they’re terrified of failure. So, they accomplish nothing. 

 

It’s time for you to accomplish something and begin your journey to self-belief.

 

This will hinge on commitment. If you are committed to change and growing your self-belief, then you will. If self-belief means believing in your capabilities, then you need to commit to honing your capabilities and growing your skills. From there, the only way is up. While you’re at it, be sure to thank the people in your life who have contributed to your growth. 

 

Your Mindset: Manifesting Abundance in Your Life

What you believe determines how you live. And when you want to have a full life that includes everything you want and need, your beliefs will be what determines if you realize this goal or not. Your mindset is the key to manifesting the abundance in your life. 

 

Two Ways of Viewing the World

 

When it comes to mindsets, there are generally two ways you can see the world. One is to think that everything in this world is limited, so it is crucial that you do whatever is necessary to get your share. The other is to believe that happiness and prosperity are not finite things, and there is enough of these in the world that we all can have what we want. The first assumes scarcity while the other assumes abundance. 

 

If you want to find everything you want and need in the world, regardless of what that is, you must embrace an abundance mindset. This way of thinking believes that all you could ever need is available to you, and once you embrace it, you will notice the difference in your life.

 

How Mindset Influences Reality

 

Your beliefs and thoughts influence everything that you do in life. How you behave is guided by what you assume about people and reality. If you think that love, success, money, and happiness are limited, then this will color how you pursue all these things. But, if you instead assume that each of these is available and within your reach, you will change how you pursue your goals, how you interact with others, and how fulfilled you actually become. 

 

To show how your mindset guides your behaviors, let us look at an example. If you walk through your day assuming everyone else is stupid, annoying, selfish, or bothersome, you will have a lot of negative interactions with other people. Each person you meet will, no matter what they do, confirm your conclusions about them. If, however, you walk through your day assuming everyone else is generous, positive, and considerate, your entire day will change dramatically. 

 

Having abundance in your life is not about the stuff you have but about how much happiness you feel inside you. What you are really worth is what is inside your mind and your heart, because this is what allows you to attract and manifest everything else in your life. If you want to have an abundant life, you must believe that you deserve abundance, you must understand that what you seek is out there and ready for you to find it, and you must actively work to bring those things to your life.

 

When you have a scarcity mindset, you believe that when you are getting more in your life, others must likewise be losing from theirs, which can lead to feelings of guilt or shame for your own happiness. To be fair to everyone, you believe that you must somehow accept your “share” and be okay with that. But, when you realize that there is more than enough of everything we each need to have a fulfilling life, you can be happy and grateful in your own abundance, as you realize that others can also have what they need and deserve. 

 

Let Go of Scarcity Thinking

 

When you learn to adopt an abundance mindset, you will realize there is no need to compare yourself to other people, to feel guilty for your own success or happiness, to actively reach for what you want and need in life, and to realize your full potential. Learning to think abundantly will allow you to live abundantly. 

 

5 Ways To Elevate Your Thinking About Success

Have you ever taken a moment to consider how powerful thoughts are? Do you realize how your thoughts and thinking process influence your success? A healthy mindset is one of the greatest attributes you can have. You can think the way you choose to think. 

 

We’ve all heard a story about someone who came from nothing to beat the odds. They grew up in a low-income family, their education was poor at best, there was no money, but yet, they climbed their way to the top. How? With the right mindset. So, how can you elevate your thinking about success? Here are five ways. 

 

1. Get Real

 

How do you really want to live your life? Do you want to be powerless? Doesn’t that make you angry to just think about? Why would anyone choose to live their life in such a way? It’s time to get real. You have to demand better from yourself. Think about your childhood dreams and where you are now. Sure, your dreams may have changed since then, but how big is the gap? What do you dream of now? What do you need to do to make it happen? You can’t use your past to define you now, but you can look at where you were to determine where you go from here. Use your thoughts, visualize your dreams, empower yourself, and go get it!

 

2. Taking Responsibility 

 

Your feelings influence your thoughts which impacts your feelings. It can be a vicious cycle, which is why you need to take responsibility for your emotions and feelings. You control it. You may react to your environment or the people in it, but ultimately, you are responsible for how you feel. You can choose positivity and that is going to elevate your thinking about success. Success is inevitable when you believe that to be true. 

 

3. Choosing Your Thoughts

 

This is an important step that most of us don’t do. It’s so easy to fall into a negative thought trap, but you have to actively choose your thoughts. Take notice of the thoughts which are dominating your mind. Are they negative? If they are, insert positive thoughts immediately. When you practice this regularly, you will start to experience fewer negative thoughts. 

 

4. Motivational Material

 

There are books, blogs, articles, podcasts, and a whole host of material out there that will inspire and motivate you. The purpose of this is to open your mind and help you change your perspective. You can learn more about a particular subject or go on a journey of self-discovery. The point is that these things help you elevate your thinking about success. It isn’t a unicorn. It’s something within your reach if you are willing to reach out and grab it. 

 

5. Commit to Alone Time

 

While you may feel as though this is intuitive, the truth of the matter is that alone time can help you bolster your success. When you allow yourself to exist in space without others, you don’t need to seek validation from anyone else. This is simply about you. You will make better choices because you aren’t being influenced by others. You don’t need constant companionship, what you need is a bit of quiet time to really sit with yourself and think. 

 

Success means a variety of different things for all of us. None of us will agree on what it looks like exactly because what you view as success might not line up with what a co-worker considers success. Only you can determine whether you are successful or not. So, where are you on your journey to success? What’s holding you back?