Conduct and Self-Determination

Learning how to reform your conduct, which makes up your behaviours and habits, can help you successfully maintain self-determination. When you reform your ways, likely you will follow find the strength to advance into the future to find your success. Don’t waste precious time patronizing or allowing others to patronize you, rather find the positive, and use it to your advantage. You cannot change anyone but yourself. Many people make this major mistake in relationships. They often focus on changing their mate rather than changing their ways. The main thing you need to do is to hold on to your self-determination and reform your habits, learn to trust, and respect you so that you grow strong. 

 

Some beneficial conducts you may want to develop is a chaste. Chaste is a pure individual, innocent of lies, or other behaviours that create negative emotional charges. Thus, honesty is a policy you want to conform, relate, and stand up to make your skills stronger. Trustworthy is another good quality. When you demonstrate trustworthy to others, they will honour you and feel good about discussing issues they may have with you. You will find that people are more willing to follow your lead when you are trustworthy. 

 

Virtuous and honest person is someone with righteous qualities, yet not someone that uses biblical commands to their advantage. When you have virtue, you show upright conduct, moral traits, etc that makes others want to fall in your lap and ask you how did you do it? By developing these qualities, you will inspire others to join you. As people, we are by nature gregarious. By this, I mean we as humans will find it difficult when we isolate from others, especially if we are close with others. As humans, we need to love and feel loved. We have a need to express and show and seek companionship, yet our social skills are something we need to review to make sure others will welcome us. Again, you want to build chaste, virtues and other useful qualities that will guarantee take you to success. Therefore, you can develop self-determination if you are willing to work in harmony with the self. When you have synchronization, you can make anything happen. 

 

Moreover, when you focus on the here and now you boost your ability to use your common-sense. Practically, human development is a long process, so hang tuff, and hold on to self-determination. You may use common-sense to compare what your child will need to make you happy. For instance, compare a child to you so that you see the balance and medium of taking care of you, i.e., the equilibrium. Would you like to lie around in wet clothes? Logically, you would not. This is an example, since surely no loving parent is going to permit their child insufficient care by letting them rest in a wet diaper. Therefore, use common-sense when you are taking care of you. 

 

You may not realize it but if you are adjusting, you are dealing with some negative emotions buried in your subconscious mind. These fears develop and hide frustration, uncertainty and the fear of failure. By ignoring these emotions, you only set yourself up for failure. Turn this around by removing any doubts you may have. If you have doubts of your ability, reach inside of you and make an assessment to determine where the doubt is coming from within you. Spending time with you will help you to grow stronger and hold onto your self-determination. You can also ask someone you trust to help you reach inside to find answers. The person can give you some support. 

 

Love among People Leads to a Happy Life

In this world, man has a common psychology to be happy. However, this is such a feeling that not many people can feel it. Most of the people today spend a major part of their time to gather wealth, which they believe, can bring them happiness. However, it is only after the wealth gathers that they feel unhappy. 

 

Let us consider what the opposite of love, that is, Hatred does. Hatred creates hostility and hostility in turn robs one of peace of mind. A person who does not have peace of mind cannot be happy. In addition, when hatred reaches its peak, it sometimes results in physical violence. Stabbings and murders take place because of rabid hatred. Happiness, for sure, eludes both the murdered and murderer. So, why hate and be unhappy? Is it not better to love and achieve happiness? Alas, when it is so easy to be happy, a large majority continues to be unhappy. 

 

Where the feelings love is inspires in people? Love feels a person with noble feelings: compassion, sacrifice, sympathy, and understanding, welfare of the beloved at one’s own cost, tenderness and sweetness. A lover is forever ready to lay down his life, if an occasion arises, for his beloved. In addition, he is more concerned about the welfare of his beloved. If in any event he is not able to get his beloved in marriage, he does not wish her ill. On the contrary, he parts from her, though sadly, but wishes her happiness in life. 

 

If love alone could be adopted as the guiding principle of individual’s lives, there would be no quarrels and divorces between married. There would be no friction between parents and children, no bitterness between friends, and no exploitation of man-by-man. History reveals that tyrants that have invariable been loveless men – people who did not receive love in their childhood and adolescent years which hardened into ruthless power seekers. Lack of love in a child’s life can play havoc with his personality and mental makeup. 

 

Love alone can alleviate many ills of the society and is undoubtedly the basis of a happy life. Extended to international sphere, if the nations of the world practiced this wonderful principle, there would be no wars, no large-scale massacres, and no widespread destruction. 

 

Accept the Pleasures and Pains of Life to Make It Beautiful

In this busy world today, man is always in a hurry. Due to this hurry, they are always competing with each other and it in the process, it is definite that one will win and the other will lose. When a man achieves something or wins, he or she gets a feeling of highness, whereas when he or she loses, he or she gets doomed or becomes pessimistic. It is a known fact that in this earth when the sun rises in one part of this hemisphere, the other part is in darkness. The same fact applies to life too, there are both sorrows and pleasures in life. 

 

Thus, life is like a boat sailing on the sea that always does not flow smoothly. A child is thumped to weep because only then its lungs begin to function. In fact, tears are as necessary for a person as oxygen itself. In excessive happiness, tears trickle down his cheeks because sufferings are their symbols – tears maintain a healthy balance in life. If a person does not realize the pain or suffering of life, then he cannot understand the joy of life. To him, the sense of proportion gets lost. Therefore, often out of pleasures rises pain to strike a balance. 

 

Every person must accept the pains of life, to understand the real meaning of joy. Otherwise, you cannot feel the joy. As autumn must come in the course of a year, similarly sorrows invariably follow every human being. If a person suffers pain, then the tears that flow out of his or her eyes softens the taut and tense strings of his heart and mind. In fact, the mist over the mind disappears in the form of tears and calmness dawns there.

 

Some people have the notion that life is only about sufferings. These types of people forget the happiness they enjoyed during the past times. Their bleared eyes get shortsighted that they forget to feel the basic law that happiness will re-visit them once again in the future. The basic law of life is happiness and sorrow co-exist with one another. Without one, the other is useless. Thorns of life serve as a fence to protect the flowers of delight and sunlight. Even, Shelley – the great English poet said, “Our sweetest songs are those that tell of saddest thought.” 

 

In fact, comedy and tragedy make the warp and woof of life. All the patterns of experience are woven with these contrasting threads. Smiles are sighs and spice to life which otherwise becomes dull and monotonous. Even in scriptures, it is written to take joys and sufferings placidly without any hesitation. He is exhorted not to be overly happy when success visits him and not to fear when pains and misery affects him. The greatest of men on earth, all have suffered both the pleasures and pains. This is life and you have to derive pleasure from life in this way.

 

The Concepts of Coaching and Mentoring

Guiding people through the right way through life can be a daunting task for any person who is tasked to do it. A person who has to do the guiding has a lot of delicate balances to strike: he or she has to be strong enough to reprimand the person who is following him or her when that follower is not being obedient or is straying from the right path; on the other hand, he or she has to sometimes allow the follower the chance to stray, so that the follower can gain experience and thus be much wiser. There are many different things that a person has to do to guide his or her follower or followers, and these concepts of guidance are covered under coaching and mentoring.

 

The process of mentoring involves the relationship and bonding between master and pupil, a togetherness that is more commonly referred to as mentor and protégée. A mentor is someone who may sometimes be older, but who is certainly more knowledgeable, wiser, and perhaps even more serene and settled than what might predictably be a less knowledgeable, less wise, and flighty protégée. The mentor’s task is to be the guide for the inexperienced protégée: as the protégée learns more and more from the mentor, the protégée is farther thrust into greatness.

 

The mentor-protégée relationship has long existed in history, and has been glorified by pop media. There are also many different mentor-protégée relationships in the modern world. For instance, when an employee first enters a company or business, he or she is adopted by someone who has been in the company or business for a long while. Because a new employee might experience culture shock, or might not be prepared for the rigors of the current workplace, the mentor serves as a buffer and guide through how the company or business operates, making the transition easier for the protégée.

 

Still in line with workplace relationships, an existing employee might show potential as someone who could one day lead, or who could move on and be great elsewhere. In this case, a person experienced in the company could informally take on this employee and be his or her mentor. In this relationship, the mentor will teach the protégée the necessary skills to advance in the workplace, so that one day, the protégée might perhaps take the mentor’s place, advance elsewhere in the hierarchy, or move on to another company and do even better.

 

The concept of coaching, on the other hand, is quite different from that of mentoring. In coaching, a method is employed in which a leader or overseer directs the movements of a person or a group of persons. In coaching, the instruction and training given are done with a definite end goal in mind. The methods of directing people’s movements and thought process might include giving motivational talks. There are also ways to train people in order to make them perform better, such as through seminars or workshops, or through practice, such as those done by sports teams.

 

In mentoring, a mentor teaches a protégée how to live better or how to function better. In coaching, perhaps better seen as a more specific method of mentoring, the coach guides his or her team in order for them to meet an end goal. For sports coaches, this will mean victory in a game. For marriage coaches, this will mean a stronger marital bond. For family coaches, this will mean a stronger familial bond, between parents and children, and sometimes, amongst the children themselves.

 

There are many different kinds of mentoring and coaching, as well as different techniques associated with each. For more information, you can talk to professional mentors and coaches, or do more research online.

 

Breaking the Ice: An Important Part of Mentoring

When mentoring is mentioned, what comes into anyone’s mind? It could be Socrates and Plato. Or it could be Jesus the Christ and his disciples. Whether these men used ‘ice breakers’ to make their students feel at ease, we would never know. But for sure, ice breaking exercises open doors for both mentor and student relationship or student to student relationship. 

 

Mentoring is doing something valuable such as leading a less experienced individual to improve aspects in his life. It could be his faith, his skills or even simple time management. But even if you are the best mentor in the whole world, you would still need to break that barrier that comes with the stranger whom you will now teach. And this is the area where ice breakers come in.

 

An ice breaking exercise need not be an unruly game. In fact, it doesn’t always come in the form of a game. Sometimes, ice breaking exercises could simply mean the mentor introducing himself to his students and encouraging them to do the same. It could also be storytelling time for everyone. The main purpose is to make the students relax and feel comfortable. 

 

An effective ice breaker is one that suits its participants. A more serious group could feel at ease with open forums or storytelling while an active group could easily relax physical activities. Ice breakers should also avoid activities that coerce communication, games that are not related to the course, games that take too long to finish, or activities that foster cultural biases. 

 

In finding the perfect activities for a mentoring session, it is also important to consider the time factor. How long will the mentoring last? Would it take a week or two? Or will it only last for two days? You should be able to suit the activities to the available time that you have. 

 

Here are some tips on making your games or discussions much more interesting:

 

1. Be enthusiastic. Feel the game. You should be able to explain the mechanics with much liveliness in your voice. An important part of this is to know every detail of the game. You don’t want to be caught unaware that you are confused with the game yourself.

 

2. Experiment with a different game each time. Variety displaces boredom (which the mentor might feel once he gets familiar with the activity). 

 

3. Bring props. Funny props create funny moments. Make fun of anything except someone from the group.

 

4. Encourage each member of the group to participate. Don’t leave anyone out. But if someone is implying that he is still not ready to be open or active, then respect his desire.

 

5. The mentor should actively participate in all given activities and not watch from a corner after explaining the mechanics. 

 

6. Make fun of situations that are outside of the circle. Be careful of sensitive topics such as politics, religion, sexual preference, etc. 

 

The most important part of mentoring is achieving the student’s goal which is academic, religious or social improvement. Although ice breaking exercises are fun activities, they are still a necessary part of the mentoring program. In fact, it’s so important that it’s considered as the key that opens closed gates. With that in mind, participants should pay more attention and participate more on their next ice breaker. 

Why Join a Mentoring Program?

Joining a mentoring program is a very powerful tool that can help you reach your potential because of the training and empowerment it provides. Mentoring is also one of the most effective ways for you to advance in your career because your skills are developed and your performance is monitored. In short, mentoring enables you to be the person you really want to be. 

 

Two-Way Relationship

 

It is important to realize though that mentoring is a relationship between two people who trust and respect each other. Mentoring is not simply a teacher-student relationship; rather, it is a partnership that will help both the mentor and the mentee grow both personally and professionally. 

 

The mentor can aid the mentee so that he can find the right direction he should take in his career. The mentors will usually rely on their own experiences in the past and their knowledge about the industry. Because of this, mentoring can be a great way for a mentee to understand his career options and progress professionally in the future.

 

Most of the time, having a mentor will boost the confidence and the self-assurance of a mentee because he has all the support, encouragement, and guidance he needs. But the mentors should also take note that challenging the mentee to do his best is the best thing they can do so that the mentee will know how to handle difficult situations the right way in the future. 

 

As was mentioned earlier, a mentoring program is a two-way relationship; so likewise, the mentor can also expect that he will learn a lot from teaching and guiding another person. This will develop his management and leadership skills so he will develop empathy for people who is experiencing the same struggles he did in the past. 

 

Benefits of a Mentoring Program

 

A mentor will help a mentee believe in his or her capabilities as a person. Because of this, the self-confidence of the mentee will be improved and they will be more apt to accept more challenges in the future. The mentor would also enable the mentee to explore new ideas so that you can achieve a higher level of self-assurance in yourself and explore even greater highs of success. The mentoring program will be an opportunity for you to take a deeper look at yourself, your goals, your personality, and your life. This will enable you to know which the right path you should take in life is. 

 

Features You Should Look For

 

Of course, it is inevitable that some mentoring programs would be better than others because of the features and objectives provided by the specific program. For example, it would be better for you to get a mentor from outside the company so that you will get an unbiased view of what you should do regardless of who your boss is. The mentoring program would not be entirely effective if your mentor knows your boss as well. 

 

Likewise, the things that are discussed during the mentorship program should always remain confidential between the mentor and the mentee. And lastly, the mentorship program should be focused on the person. The mentor should be aware of the everyday challenges that his mentee faces so that these issues can be faced accordingly and enable the mentee to succeed in his career.

 

What to Avoid in Mentoring Programs

What is mentoring?

 

Before we can effectively look at the benefits you can derive from mentoring programs, it is first essential to understand what mentoring really is. Mentoring is simply the process wherein people are helped by a person or an organization for their personal and professional development. The person who is doing the supporting role is called the ‘mentor’ while the person being supported is called the ‘mentee’. This relationship may sometimes because complex because there are many types of mentors, just as there is many types of people. You can expect the mentor to be somewhere between being a ‘trusted friend’ and a ‘counselor’. But how exactly, can a mentor be defined? Well, we came up with several categories; your mentor will most likely fall into one of these categories. Read on to know what kind of mentor you should choose and which ones you should avoid:

 

1. The crowding mentor

 

This is the type of mentor who seems to be ignorant of the term, ‘personal space’. This mentor may not necessarily be your choice but he or she was assigned to you by your organization. 

 

2. The impossible mentor

 

Meanwhile, the impossible mentor is simply someone who you are not comfortable being with no matter what you do or what the mentor does. 

 

3. The younger mentor

 

In some cases, you might encounter a mentor who is younger than you. You might be more experienced than he is on work-related matters but this mentor was assigned to help you nonetheless. You find it difficult to take such a young mentor seriously though.

 

4. The ardent researcher

 

Your mentor would be someone who puts a big emphasis on academic research and theories. While this characteristic may not be a fault in itself, you might discover that it is hard to schedule important meetings with this mentor because he always outs research as his priority. In addition, this type of mentor might not believe that teaching the mentee is important so you are low in his priority. 

 

What does a mentor actually do?

 

So, after you know the type of mentors you should avoid, it is time to take a deeper look at what a good mentor should actually do:

 

·    Be available for a chat over the telephone or face-to-face contact

 

·    Be optimistic about the mentoring program and the development process of the mentees

 

·    Help mentees feel good about their achievements

 

·    Help mentees stick to deadlines and schedules

 

Know someone who can aid their mentees when there are cases that they can’t aid the mentees in their work plan. For example, they should help the mentees write realistic goals, deadlines, and the strategy on how these can be achieved. 

 

Give feedback on the work. They should give their opinions about the mentee’s performance so that the mentee will know which areas they should improve on. 

 

Help the mentees look at the feedback of other people. The mentees should take a serious look at the opinions of other people so they can determine their weaknesses. 

 

Make learning possible for the mentees. The mentors should provide the necessary resources such as time, effort, and space so that their mentees can learn even during their day-to-day work. 

 

Motivate their mentees. The simply act of asking how a person is doing is an act of asking how a person is doing can be motivation for them to improve their performance.

 

Why Should You Start Your Own Network Marketing Company?

The economic situation today is quite poor with about 70% of individual not able to attain financial freedom. This is the main reason why many have come up with several potential income streams from which they can make some extra dollars to help them improve their financial status. Many have even gone to an extent of coming up with several money-making options on the internet. This is through the help of virtual offices from which such individuals conduct their business transactions. The most common is virtual multi-level network marketing. 

 

There are several reasons why one should start his or her own network marketing company and especially in such a time when there is a lot of economic hardship. One very critical reason is in relation to job security. As you ball know, less than 60% of individuals in the corporate sector are assured their jobs. There is always a possibility that one might wake up and find that they are jobless the next morning. On the other, age is also a factor when it comes to corporate jobs. Normally, people are forced to retire once they attain the age of 65 no matter how healthy they still are. To avoid a scenario where you get laid off from your workplace or forced to retire, why not set up a network marketing company preferably on the internet. This way, you will never worry about being jobless despite your age.

 

Secondly, technology has become a vital part of our day to day lives. As a matter of fact, it is like the driving force of about 70% of the business sectors in the world today. Today, a business without technology cannot be referred to as a business. Therefore, it is necessary for one to look for the kind of business that incorporates technology into it for better functionality hence more profits. In regards to network marketing, one can easily reach the entire United States and not just the locals with the use of internet. In fact, if one performs exceptionally well then you can easily go worldwide.

 

One advantage of network marketing is the simple fact that you are your own boss. This is the main reason why you should start thinking of opening up your own network marketing business. Basically, with your own business you will be in a better position to oversee your financial state since no-one is above you; apart from the Almighty. 

 

Different Forms Of Meditation

There are no special tricks to meditating; no special posture or breathing rhythm is required. Once you have gotten the knack of it you can meditate anywhere during any activity. Some readers have succeeded in reaching this altered state of conscious while reading about my sand meditation, perhaps you too may realize this transformational state of consciousness as you read on.

 

Sometimes meditation opens a door into the mysteries of creation. If we allow ourselves to pass through this door there is no telling what we may encounter on the other side. Do not become discouraged if you have tried to meditate in the past and not gotten any remarkable results. Meditation is a mystical process and it may take a while to learn how to quiet your mind and open yourself to all the present moment has to offer you. 

 

My meditation began while sitting on a beach. My hands were sandy. I rubbed my thumb and forefinger together feeling the grains of sand between them slipping away until only a single grain of sand remained.

 

I could feel the shape of the grain of sand distinctly as I rolled it back and forth between my thumb and forefinger. 

 

The longer I rolled the grain of sand about the more defined my awareness of the grain of sand became. The more detailed my experience of the grain of sand became the larger it appeared to be.

 

While I could clearly feel the tiny grain of sand trapped between my thumb and finger roll about across the grooves and ridges of my fingerprints the grain of sand appeared to be growing larger and larger as I contemplated it. 

 

The grain of sand continued to grow, encompassing the beach and then the world. Before long the grain of sand had grown to an infinite size and it now encompassed all of creation; yet I still held the tiny grain of sand between my thumb and forefinger, rolling it about across the grooves and ridges of my fingerprints.

 

The tiny grain of sand was intimately connected to every part of creation and all of creation existed within it, even as it existed within my grasp. I communed with the grain of sand, aware of its infinite connectedness to everything else; through the medium of the grain of sand I became aware of my own infinite connectedness with all of creation.

 

The sand spoke to me of eternity. It told me tales about creation and the infinite nature of our existence in creation. From the grain of sand, I learned that every tiniest part of creation is a living being experiencing creation and sharing in the process whereby creation makes everything manifest.

 

My meditation with a grain of sand always produced a feeling of intense bliss. It was an eternal meditation that transcended the time and place where it began to continue throughout all of creation. From time to time, I would return to this meditation, engrossed by the wisdom and experience of a single tiny grain of sand.

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