How To Believe In Your Dreams And Make Them Happen

“Reach high, for stars lie hidden in you. 

Dream deep, for every dream precedes the goal.”

- Rabindranath Tagore

 

Can you really believe in your dreams? Are they attainable? Do you pursue them actively, every day? If you don’t, then your dreams will only be dreams. They are more like fantasies if you don’t invest in them and act on them. 

 

Think about claiming your dreams and making them happen. This leads like a path to your life’s purpose, and the life you were intended to live. 

 

Here are some valuable steps to believe in your dreams and make them happen:

 

Don’t allow fear to overcome your dreams. 

 

Believing in your personal dreams can be tied up in your fears. Fear can hog-tie even the most noble dreams, so they won’t grow. Fear is sneaky, but so overpowering. 

 

Fear will make you think you can’t make your dreams happen. It makes you feel that you’re not young enough, or smart enough or rich enough, to make them a reality. Why is that? 

 

It’s your ingrained fear of failing that does it. This overpowers any desire or will to try to reach for your dreams. Rather than pursuing your dreams, you believe, falsely, that your dreams can never come true. You’ll never know if you could have succeeded or not. If fear wins you over, your dreams will die. 

 

Identify your dreams.

 

You may have many dreams, and some of them may change, over time. They can only come true if you truly care about them. Work on your dreams now, instead of waiting for the “best” time or situation. 

 

If you have dreams that have not yet come true, pick one now. Dedicate yourself and make it happen. Don’t worry about what other people say, and don’t make any more excuses. Either that, or perhaps this wasn’t a true dream for you from the start. Look for another from your list and go after that dream. 

 

Believe fully in your dreams. 

 

Dreams are not only powerful thoughts. They also push you to do or be something. If you are daring enough to dream, you should also hold the courage to believe in those dreams. Dreams allow you freedom to change fantasy to reality. 

 

Dreams are easier to dream than they are to make happen. If you do something you love and shoot for what you want, this is more satisfactory and simpler than holding dreams in your heart but not acting on them. Take the chance and make a dream happen in your life.  

 

Pursue your dreams. 

 

Believing in your dreams is wonderful, but only if you pursue them. In order to do that, you must:

 

1. Set goals that are realistic. 

 

Set attainable goals, but also challenge yourself to make them happen. Start with smaller goals and work your way through to larger ones. Break dreams into steps that are manageable, and that you’ll be able to complete. 

 

2. Develop a more positive attitude.

 

Believe in yourself and remain positive. Keep your motivation strong, since pursuing dreams may be tough. Surround yourself with family and friends who uphold and support you, to help keep you on the right track. 

 

3. Take definite action.

 

Don’t wait for something to happen – you need to make it happen yourself. Take steps, even if they’re small, towards your dreams. The more you act with purpose, the closer you will be to making your dreams happen. 

 

4. Persevere even if you have setbacks.

 

As with any journey, there are bumps in your path. If you come up against obstacles and they knock you back, get up and move on. When you pursue your dreams, the race is not a sprint but a marathon. Remain focused and don’t give up. 

 

Conclusion

 

Believing in your dreams and making them happen does take effort, but it is possible, as long as you’ve set your mind to it. Take smaller steps and remain positive, and you will be able to overcome any difficulties you encounter. Start pursuing your dreams today!

 

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.” 
- Harriet Tubman

 

10 Thoughtful Ways To Show Others They Matter To You

There is something special about feeling needed by friends and family or just being of importance to someone. These feelings help you to build your self-confidence and fortify your happiness. 

 

They can lead you to the understanding of where you fit in “the big picture,” giving your life meaning. You can show others how to feel this way, as well, by showing them that they matter to you. 

 

Here are 10 thoughtful ways you can show others that they truly matter to you:

 

Give them a hug. 

 

Ah, hugs, those simple embraces may be all someone needs to feel healing power and your appreciation for them. Hugging also creates a connection between you and others and a sense of safety, important in any stage of your life. 

 

Actively listen with your whole body, not just your ears. 

 

Pay attention to your body language when you are listening to someone close, to show them that how they feel is important to you. When you speak face to face, maintain eye contact. If the topic is positive or light, a smile is helpful, too. 

Celebrate their successes with them. 

 

When you acknowledge someone’s accomplishments, it will boost their sense of self-esteem, and allow them to feel more important. When a friend achieves something, they have worked diligently for, celebrate it with them and recognize their efforts. Celebrating others’ successes also creates a healthy, positive environment that is beneficial to all involved. 

 

Make the time for private conversations with just the two of you. 

 

Making time in your day for one-on-one interactions truly shows that they matter to you. You dedicate them individualized attention, allowing them to understand they are a priority in your eyes. 

 

These private one-on-ones could include:

 

• Going for a walk in nature together

• Scheduling a coffee or dinner together

• Just having a private, uninterrupted conversation 

 

Focused time like this will allow you to form deeper connections. It also makes the other person feel important, valued, and respected. 

 

Let them know that you believe in them. 

 

When you believe in other people, encourage them to carry that belief themselves. This helps them to envision future successes, stretch their thinking and throw open the door to their own potential. Positive words used will infect others with enthusiasm and energy. Avoid cynical words, which suck their energy and plague them with less belief in themselves.

 

Offer them hope. 

 

At each moment of every day, you can either make the world better or worse. Your thoughts spread out and are contagious, so you want them to be positive. You have it in you to help lift others up or bring them down. Interactions with others should provide a spark of hope and encouragement, for a better day or possibly a better life. 

 

Send them motivational quotes.

 

Passing on words of motivation can refresh others’ perspectives on their situations. Each person will interpret experiences and information in their own way. Sending positive, encouraging quotes helps to establish positivity and connectedness. 

 

Respect their space when they need it.

 

Respect others’ need for space when it occurs. If someone you know and feel close to is going through a trying life event or a very busy time, maintaining healthy boundaries can let them know that their feelings are important to you. 

 

Let them know what you have learned from them.

 

When you tell your family, friends, or co-workers what you have learned from them, it validates them. This could include skills like:

 

• Active listening

• Cooking

• Being a true friend

 

Letting people know what they have taught us tells them that we have heard them, and we place importance on what they say. 

 

Send them snail mail cards or letters.

 

With everything being sent electronically today, sending your friends snail mail letters or cards can show them your appreciation and love in what is now a rather unique way. You can send greeting cards that are blank inside and fill them with your own words or send a handmade postcard or everyday card. It only takes a few words to let people know that they matter to you. 

 

Conclusion

 

There’s no time like now to show others that they matter to you. Even though you may be in touch with them frequently through email, etc., they will appreciate you reminding them that you are there for them physically, as well. Take a little time and show others just how much they mean to you. 

 

The Influence Of Positivity: Fostering Optimism In Challenging Times

Just when we are sailing smoothly through life, something unexpected comes along and throws us into a downward spiral. Terrible accidents, job loss, illness, the challenges of aging, or the loss of a loved one all can hit us hard personally. On a broader scope, the age in which we live has more violent crime, unemployment, social and political unrest, and economic hardships, draining our ability to cope. 

 

However, even in distressing circumstances, you can learn to approach life with optimism. Science has shown that people tend to bounce back when faced with significant life stressors.

 

The Difference Between Positivity and Optimism

Oxford Languages defines optimism as “Hopefulness and confidence about the future or the successful outcome of something.” In contrast, positivity is “The quality, character, or fact of being positive.”

 

In other words, optimism is anticipating positive outcomes in the future, whereas positivity is how we react to situations. An optimistic outlook helps us to foster positivity.

 

The Importance and Benefits of Optimism

Multiple studies were conducted to evaluate the links between optimism and psychological coping. The broaden-and-build theory (Fredrickson, 1998, 2001) found that optimistic feelings are helpful. "Experiences of positive emotions during times of stress prompt individuals to pursue novel and creative thoughts and actions.” 

 

Research by Johns Hopkins expert Lisa R. Yanek, M.P.H., and her colleagues found that people prone to heart disease who had an optimistic viewpoint were “13% less likely than their negative counterparts to have a heart attack or other coronary event.”

 

There are many other benefits to being optimistic, including:

 

• Reduced Risk of Depression: Studies show that positive people have better mental health, lowering the risk and severity of depression.

• Healthier Lifestyle: Optimistic people typically make healthy choices such as eating nutritious foods, exercising, and getting sufficient sleep.

• Longer Lifespan: Those who are optimistic tend to have good health and live longer than pessimistic people.

• Better Coping: Optimistic people handle stress better and recognize that hardships are only temporary.

 

How Do I Become More Optimistic?

Adjust Your Mindset

 

A mindset is how people perceive themselves and their beliefs, contributing to their attitudes and behavior. “By understanding, adapting and shifting your mindset, you can improve your health, decrease your stress and become more resilient to life’s challenges.” You can learn to shift your mindset by practicing positive self-talk and daily positive affirmations.

 

• Positive Self-Talk: Self-talk is the inner discussion or thoughts we all have; our thoughts can be positive or negative. As humans, when faced with hardships, we tend to blame ourselves. For example, if you were laid off from work, you might think, “What did I do wrong?” or “I really messed up.” Instead, replace the negative thoughts with optimistic ones, such as “I have the skills to find an exciting new career.”

• Daily Positive Affirmations: Improve your self-esteem and positivity by practicing daily affirmations, which are things we say to ourselves to acknowledge our self-worth, such as: "I choose to be happy today." or "I am optimistic."

 

Socialize with Positive People

 

When you interact with optimistic people, you tend to become more optimistic. You can learn from other people and have a great support system. You can meet people by taking a class, joining a group or club, attending church, or volunteering.

 

• Practice Acceptance: Experiencing negative and positive emotions is part of life. Accepting and valuing everything that happens is essential as it will improve your coping ability during difficult times. An optimistic person will look at challenging times as lessons learned for the future.

 

Live a Healthy Lifestyle

 

Strive to eat unprocessed, nutritious foods such as fruits and vegetables, lean proteins, whole grains, and fish. Exercise for at least 30 minutes daily to reduce stress, improve strength, and lift your mood. Choose a form of exercise you enjoy, such as walking or riding a bicycle.

 

Laughter is Good Medicine

 

Laughter increases your oxygen-rich air intake, stimulating organs such as the heart and lungs. It releases endorphins, a “feel-good” hormone. Indulge in fun activities that make you laugh, and always try to find the humor in things.

 

Conclusion

Optimism is important for our mental and physical health and well-being. Being positive can reduce the risk of depression, improve our coping abilities, and contribute to a longer lifespan. Optimism is essential for our personal growth. When we are optimistic, we approach life’s challenging times with positivity and confidence.

 

References

 

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3132556/

 

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/profiles/details/lisa-yanek 

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/07/11/cheerful-heart-attack-risk-happy-well-being_n_3575548.html 

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2894461/ 

https://news.stanford.edu/report/2021/09/15/mindsets-clearing-lens-life/ 

https://hbsp.harvard.edu/inspiring-minds/how-to-stay-optimistic-when-so-much-is-still-unclear 

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_prime_your_mind_for_optimism 

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/positive-thinking/art-20043950

https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/self-talk 

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress-relief/art-20044456 

Mindful Living: The Path To A More Fulfilling Life

Mindfulness is not an out-of-reach foreign concept that is difficult to add to your everyday life. It’s actually quite the opposite. Mindfulness is a meditation technique that has many benefits and is very simple to use. Here we talk about what mindfulness and its benefits are as well as ways to include it in your daily living.

 

What is Mindful Living?

 

Mindful living simply means incorporating the practice of mindfulness into your everyday life. As a beginner, you’ll need to make a conscious effort to practice mindfulness as you go about your day. Once you hone your skills, you’ll find yourself engaging in mindfulness automatically as you complete your daily tasks.

 

Mindfulness is a mental state in which you are fully aware of the present moment. You engage with your five physical senses and free thoughts. You allow yourself to experience the moment from an objective perspective. In mindfulness, it’s important to refrain from viewing experiences as “good” or “bad.”

 

How Is Mindful Living Beneficial?

 

Mindful living has benefits that reach every core life area, including mental health, physical health, social relationships, employment, recreation, etc. Here are just a few of the benefits that mindful living provides:

 

• Less rumination on undesired thoughts

• Stress reduction

• Better cognitive function

• Less emotional reactivity

• Higher satisfaction with relationships

• Better mental health

• Stronger immune function

 

How to Live Mindfully

 

There are many ways to introduce mindfulness into your daily life. It is a form of meditation as well as a mindset. First, you can start by scheduling a structured mindfulness session into each day. Ten-minute sessions are a good starting point. You can add them to your wake up or bedtime routine so that they’re easy to structure into your day. Here are some ways to practice mindfulness during these sessions:

 

• Get yourself into a comfortable position within a quiet and calm environment.

• Starting at either end of your body, gradually tense and relax your muscles and joints. Pay attention to the physical sensations as you do so.

• Take slow, deep breaths. Count how many you take and how long they last. Feel and visualize the air working through your respiratory system.

• Allow yourself to have thoughts of positive messages.

• Repeat encouraging mantras aloud.

• Listen to a guided meditation.

• Once you get better at these techniques, you can begin to practice them in a less structured way. Here are some ways to engage in mindfulness throughout your day:

• Practice mindfulness when you get a small break in your day, such as at work or while sitting at a red light in traffic.

• Journal at the end of each day to recap your experiences and note what you are grateful for that day.

• Create a positive affirmation jar and start your day by reading a slip out of the jar.

• Take inventory of your five physical senses as you complete daily activities, such as walking, driving, eating, hygiene tasks, and recreational activities.

• Focus on a single task at a time. For example, instead of listening to music while making dinner, prepare the meal without additional stimuli. You can feel the ingredients in your hands, hear the sound of chopping, smell the food cooking, see the variety of colors in the ingredients, and taste test the meal as you’re preparing it.

• Participate in creative recreational activities, such as coloring, sewing, sculpting, etc.

• Look at an object for a few minutes to notice details you’ve missed in the past.

• Actively listen in conversations with others.

• Practice empathy. Imagine what others may be experiencing and why they’re acting the way they are.

 

Think about what you will say before you say. Remember that it’s okay to take a pause in conversation if needed.

 

Source Links

 

https://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/07-08/ce-corner

 

https://www.healthline.com/health/mind-body/mindfulness-activities

 

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/320392

  

https://www.mindful.org/what-is-mindfulness/

5 Lifestyle Changes You Should Make In Your 40s

As we approach 40 years old, we may notice physical and mental changes in ourselves, such as lower energy, weight gain, and poorer memory; this is normal and part of the aging process. The National Institute On Aging explains “Aging is associated with changes in dynamic biological, physiological, environmental, psychological, behavioral, and social processes.”

 

However, please don’t despair; it’s never too late to make healthy lifestyle changes to keep you fit. A study of Multi-Ethnic Atherosclerosis (MESA) led by Johns Hopkins Medicine monitored over 6.000 people, ages 44 – 84, for more than seven years. Those who made positive changes, such as eating a Mediterranean-style diet, exercising regularly, and quitting smoking, decreased their death risk in the study period by 80%.

 

Biological Changes as We Age

As we start to age, some of the changes we may notice include:

 

• Weight gain

• Muscle tone reduction

• Energy drain

• Skin thinning, sagging, and wrinkling

• Hot flashes (women)

• Vision problems

• Aches and pains

• Urination frequency increase

• Digestion problems, such as reduced tolerance for spicy food

• Cognitive issues, like forgetting things

• Sleep difficulties

 

Healthy Choices

It will help if you make the following lifestyle changes in your 40s to help you stay healthy and active. Regardless of your age, these changes have significant benefits at any stage of life.

 

Nutrition and Exercise: You can prevent weight gain by eating a nutritious diet and exercising daily. This lifestyle change also helps to rebuild muscle tone, boost energy, and reduce your risk of heart disease and other aging-related diseases.

 

Get Sufficient Sleep: Consistent, quality sleep helps to support weight control, heart health, and physical and mental performance. It can also help to prevent the onset of certain diseases. Sleep is necessary for our body and brain functions. Strive to sleep for 7 – 8 hours nightly. Avoid eating before bedtime and eliminate caffeine in the afternoon. Avoid electronics before bedtime as they stimulate the brain and can prevent you from falling asleep.

 

Stop Smoking: Johns Hopkins Medicine explains that “Not smoking is by far the most critical single action you can take to prevent heart disease, heart attack and stroke.” When you decide to quit smoking, replace cravings with healthy habits like exercise or deep breathing for relaxation. You may want to ask your doctor about aids to help you quit, such as the nicotine patch.

 

Limit Sun Exposure: We all need some sunshine to ensure a proper level of vitamin D, which is necessary for bone health and immune function, as well as decreasing depression symptoms. However, the sun’s ultraviolet (UV) rays can harm your skin, cause cancer, and damage your eyes. To protect yourself, use an SPF (Sun Protection Factor) sunscreen of 30 or higher and apply it to all exposed skin. Use an SPF-15 or higher lip balm. Wear a long-sleeved shirt, a wide-brimmed hat, and sunglasses. Avoid tanning beds.

 

Exercise Your Brain: As we age, it’s essential to keep our brains active to maintain or improve our cognitive abilities, such as memory and attention span. Give your brain a workout by learning new things, reading, doing a jigsaw puzzle, or solving crossword puzzles.

 

Conclusion

As we age, we will inevitably notice changes in our physical and mental well-being. Living a healthy lifestyle can boost our well-being and prevent disease – it's never too late to start. Transitioning into our 40s can be an exciting and positive new phase of life. 

 

“Life really does begin at forty. Up until then, you are just doing research.”

Carl G. Jung

 

References

 

https://www.nia.nih.gov/about/aging-strategic-directions-research/understanding-dynamics-aging#:~:text=Aging%20is%20associated%20with%20changes,benign%2C%20such%20as%20graying%20hair. 

 

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/its-never-too-late-five-healthy-steps-at-any-age

 

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/nutrition-and-healthy-eating/in-depth/mediterranean-diet/art-20047801

 

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/the-number-one-way-to-reduce-heart-risk

 

Letting Go Of Fear: Embracing Life With Courage

Fear is often an invisible force holding you back from rushing into life full force. 

 

It might be the reason you haven't experienced the fullness of life. 

 

It could be the reason you didn't chase an opportunity that could have radically changed your life. 

 

If you want to embrace life truly, then you have to confront your fears, let go, and embrace courage. 

 

Here, we explore how letting go of fear to embrace courage can transform your life. 

 

Identify & Acknowledge

 

Before you can let go of your fears, you have to identify what they are and acknowledge their presence in your life. 

 

Fear comes in many forms – it could be a fear of change or the unknown, a fear of failure, or a fear of rejection. When you recognize your fears, you start to remove their power. It also unveils the obstacles that have been hindering your growth. 

 

The key to getting to the root cause of your fears is self-awareness, and with that, you can take steps toward freedom. 

 

Embrace Vulnerability 

 

To be courageous you have to embrace vulnerability and understand that it's okay to be imperfect and you don't need all the answers. Sometimes, it's a fear of vulnerability that holds people back and it can be a major obstacle that prevents you from expressing yourself fully and truly. It can hold you back from pursuing your passions. Embrace vulnerability and enjoy the experience – you don't need to be in constant control of everything, you can hold a genuine connection with others, be authentic, and enjoy life more by opening yourself up. 

 

Shift Your Perspective 

 

Sometimes, fear is rooted in how you perceive a situation. When you shift your perspective, you can change the narrative that's sparking fear in your mind. Rather than viewing a challenge as an insurmountable obstacle, you can see it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Changing the way you perceive a fear-based situation will allow you to take a curious approach and embrace a mindset of resilience and growth. 

 

A Growth Mindset

 

If you're looking for the antidote to fear, it's a growth mindset. 

 

You have to embrace the belief that your intelligence, skills, and abilities can be developed beyond where they are now and utilized to tackle any challenge life may present. It's a stark shift in mindset, but the change is one that will foster resilience and allow you to confront fear head-on, with a profound understanding that any failure is simply a stepping stone to success. 

 

It's The Little Steps

 

It's important to remember you don't need to take giant leaps to get to where you're going. You can take little steps and get to where you're going just the same. So, take little steps out of fear consistently as you embrace courage because it will change your life. 

 

Do yourself a favor by setting small milestones and building up your sense of accomplishment. Eventually, you will break down the fear that's holding you back and get more accustomed to winning regularly. 

 

Final Thoughts 

 

Setbacks are an inevitable part of life, don't let them fuel fear. Embrace every one of them as an opportunity to grow and learn. Don't dwell on failure, take the lesson and move forward.

 

If you want to embrace life fully, you need to be willing to confront your fears and let them go once and for all. Letting go of your fears gives you the freedom to embrace the courage you already have within you – it's the biggest step you can take when looking at ways to develop yourself and improve your life. Be vulnerable, develop your self-awareness, look at life from a new perspective, and nurture a growth mindset – it's all about taking little steps consistently to get to where you're going.