Your Relationships May Suck Because You Lack This Powerful Personal Trait

Do you have a tough time in your relationships? Does it seem like regardless of how awesome things start out, they eventually end up in the same place?

 

Now, please understand that I'm not talking about your romantic relationship breaking up. It's not that bad. Your relationship is still intact. But it's not as full or as rich as you would've hoped. You have to understand that real relationships are mutually rewarding.

 

In other words, they challenge you to become a better person. You're not really looking to benefit the other person, per se. You're looking to become a better person because of the relationship. It helps you mature. It helps you commit. It helps you dedicate your life, your emotions and your resources to something bigger and better than you.

 

A lot of people don't understand this about relationships. But the ultimate truth about this type of interpersonal arrangement is the fact that you have to lie to yourself for the relationship to flourish. In other words, the relationship is not about you. 

 

It's not about what you want. It's not about what you need. It's not about what makes you happy. It's not about the things that put a smile of your face. It's not about you. Instead, it's about your ability to commit to something bigger than you over a long period of time.

 

This commitment is easy to understand when things are going well. When you love your partner and she loves you back, it's very easy to see why people stay in the relationship. It is mutually rewarding. 

 

But what if the love doesn't come back? What if, try as hard as you might, there's no mutuality there? Does that mean that the relationship has to go 6 feet under? Does that mean that you have to head for the door and call it quits?

 

Well, this is the choice you have. And unfortunately, if you don't have the powerful personal trait of self-discipline, it's very easy for your relationships to die at some level or other. As I've said early on in this blog post, even if your relationship is still intact, it may still suck. 

 

Why? It's not very fulfilling. In fact, if you're completely honest about it, the relationship has, for lack of a better word, died a long time ago. You're just going through the motions.

 

Maybe you're afraid of having to go through the long process of meeting somebody new. Maybe you don't like rejection. Maybe there's just so many things out there that you're afraid of because you don't know what could go wrong so you stay in the relationship.

 

But for all intents and purposes, it's dead. Your relationship sucks. Why? You lack self-discipline. If you want your relationship to flourish, be self-disciplined. It's that simple! 

 

This means you have to pay attention to the needs of the other person. This means that you have to put the relationship ahead of your needs. This means that you have to give everything that you have, regardless of how you feel, regardless of what other people are saying, so the relationship can flourish.

 

It's all about sacrifice. In other words, it's all about becoming an emotional adult. The problem is the more you think you're entitled to the relationship serving you or giving you something that you don't have, that's going to be a problem.

 

The longer you think that the other person has to somehow, someway, complete you instead of you maturing and stepping up, that's going to be a problem. The solution to this is self-discipline.

 

It takes self-discipline to put somebody else's needs first. It takes self-discipline to continue being patient with somebody as they get their emotional and mental act together. Make no mistake about it. In any relationship, there's either an adult, a child or 2 children or 2 adults. You know what the right answer is.

 

You have to both be adults and this requires discipline. If you need more self-discipline in your life, the other articles in this blog will show you how.

This Is The Secret Ingredient Of Truly Rewarding Relationships

What is a rewarding relationship? If you're reading this, you probably already know what a relationship is. It's an arrangement between 2 people. Maybe they share a certain level of intimacy. Maybe they share certain resources. Maybe they even live together.

 

But at the end of the day, our relationships apply across the board. You're in a relationship with your boss whether you like it or not. You're in a relationship with your friends. That much is obvious. Obviously, you're in a relationship with your relatives.

 

But the problem is just because you're in a relationship doesn't necessarily mean that they are mutually rewarding. In fact, most relationships involve parasitical arrangements. I know that's harsh. I know that at some level or other, it's politically incorrect. But it's also true.

 

Have you ever had a friend who would call you only when she's depressed? She would call you because she has all these problems and she's basically just going on and on about how everybody's unfair and how this person broke her heart and now she's crying and suffering deep down inside.

 

So, you try to be as supportive as you can and you just listen or you give advice. But at the end of the conversation, she feels so much better but at the same time, you feel heavy. It's as if you got hollowed out by this person's complaint and general negativity.

 

Well, that is forgivable if it happens every once in a blue moon. But if it happens all the time, that is a parasitical relationship. Guess what? You're not the parasite. Your friend is. She is benefiting from you. You, on the other hand, are getting emotionally hollowed out. You feel really heavy and at the end of the day, you feel numb.

 

It's as if all your emotional energy just got sucked out. This also applies to romantic relationships. Please understand that there are a lot of broken people out there. Unfortunately, a lot of them don't know they're broken.

 

So, they unload all their insecurities and hang ups on the people who love them. And since you love this person, the relationship becomes some sort of emotional black hole. Every time this person opens her mouth, it's as if all the problems in the world is placed right square on your shoulder and guess what? It's not exactly light.

 

So, what happens? You start looking at your relationship in terms of compartments. You like the sex. You like the intimacy. But you could do without the drama. So, what do you do? You keep her emotionally at arm’s length. You're not really there. You're not present.

 

When she opens her mouth to share her deepest feelings and her most agonizing insecurities, you check out. Now, this is the problem, it doesn't mature you as a person nor does it help her. And unfortunately, your relationship is stuck in neutral.

 

This doesn't necessarily mean it's going to break down. This doesn't necessarily mean that there's a high chance that somebody's going to head out for the door. Instead, I'm talking about something worse.

 

You can stay in a relationship. But essentially, it is not very rewarding. You can stay in that for 30 years. You can stay in it until you die. And the worst part to all of this is that you cheated yourself because that relationship could've been mutually enriching.

 

It could've been a gateway for both of you maturing as adults and going past your comfort zones so you can live up to your fullest emotional and mental potential. But unfortunately, because you lack self-discipline, you just look at your relationship as this necessary evil that you just have to endure because there's something in it for you.

 

Maybe it's the sex. Maybe it's the intimacy. Maybe it's her money. Whatever the case may be, it is an unhealthy arrangement. If you're sick and tired of unhealthy arrangements and relationships that are not all that healthy for you on an emotional, mental or spiritual level, click here.

 

You will get a practical everyday guide on how to become a more self-disciplined person. It doesn't matter how busy you are. It doesn't matter what kind of past drama you have suffered. It doesn't matter what kind of crappy relationship you're in.

 

This framework will help you get the self-discipline you need so you can be that kind, loving, compassionate and effective partner that you are capable of becoming.

This Is The Secret Ingredient of Truly Rewarding Careers

Do you consider yourself having a job instead of a career? You might not be aware of it, but you may be a Marxist. Did you know that Marx said that when people get up every day to go to work, they shouldn't get up and put on their pants or whatever else they're putting on to go to some sort of daily humiliation?

 

The work must uplift their humanity. Work must complete them. Work must not debase them, split up their emotions or otherwise dehumanize them. It's very easy to see why Marxism has its strange appeal.

 

Who wouldn't want to uplift people? Who wouldn't want people to be complete? Who wouldn't want people to live up to their fullest potential? Who wouldn't want a better world? But here's the problem. The solution is not about some sort of revolution to bring about a classless society. 

 

The problem is not class itself. The problem is something closer to home. The problem, if you are honest about it, is actually very personal. It is this personal trait that most people don't want to think about.

 

They equate it with some sort of discomfort. They think that it worked well for their grandparents, but it probably won't work for them now. They think that modern society has gone so far and is so advanced and different from the past that it's really pointless to look at past values and use them in the here and now.

 

The personal trait that I'm talking about is self-discipline. Now, don't get me wrong. People still use the word “self-discipline”. There is no shortage of people talking a good game when it comes to self-discipline and self-control. Those people are all over.

 

But the problem is people can say certain things but you only need to look at how they live their lives and, most importantly, you need to pay attention to what's going on in the economy to see that there's a big disconnect.

 

People like the concept of self-discipline. They definitely want other people to be self-disciplined. But when it comes to them or their family or their loved ones, it's another matter entirely. 

 

The truth is self-discipline is something that we think would be nice if we had. But at the end of the day, we'd rather get convenience. We'd rather have instant careers that are instantly rewarding and complete us.

 

Unfortunately, that doesn't happen without our own effort. It's impossible without our input. Sadly, too many people have developed a passive mindset. They think that great careers just happen to them. They just need to fill out a form, get a right job and automatically, they will have a truly rewarding career. 

 

But what they have is that Marxist description that I gave in the beginning of this article. They think that life is a daily humiliation. They think that the job that they go to is a complete and total waste of their time.

 

Here's the secret. If you want a truly rewarding career, you cannot wait for your boss to give it to you. That's just not going to happen. You can't wait for somebody else to hand you the career that you should be building yourself.

 

In other words, truly rewarding careers are only possible because of hard works, sacrifice and long-term commitment. I know none of these are popular. I know none of these are convenient. I know none of these are easy. But they are all absolutely necessary.

This Is The #1 Trait Modern America Discourages

Let's face it. Americans are kind of schizophrenic. By schizophrenic, I'm talking about double minded. On the one hand, they talk a big game about working hard. In fact, if you watch political speeches, you will come across the phrase “hard work” at least a couple of times.

 

It seems that when it comes to official pronouncements of what makes America great and the great American character, people talk about hard work, hard work and hard work. In fact, they talk about it in the same tones as the way they talk about the middle class.

 

But the problem is this is very disconnected to how Americans actually behave. You only need to look at your corner pizzeria or pizza shop to understand exactly what I'm talking about. When you pick up that phone to reach out to your local pizzeria, what will they tell you?

 

That's right. Your pie will get to your place in 15 minutes or it's free. Why are they doing that? Why are they offering that kind of deal? Well, guess what? Pizzerias are creatures of the market. They wouldn't be offering that if their competition wasn't offering that.

 

The reason why people are offering that in the first place is because that is what the market demands. That's right. The market means people like you and me. In other words, our behavior is all about convenience. 

 

You only need to look at the internet where everything is available by instant download. When you click a button, money is automatically transported from PayPal to whatever it is you're buying from, that's just the way our society is set up. You have to understand that given the size and magnitude of our obsession with convenience, something has to give.

 

Guess what happens? Self-discipline, despite the fact that we love talking about it as some sort of vague, far away concept, is exactly the personality trait that suffers. In other words, people love self-discipline. But nobody wants to be self-disciplined.

 

If they're forced to, they would admit that they would love other people around them to be more self-disciplined. Maybe people should be cleaner. Maybe people should put trash in trash cans. Maybe people should be more responsible. Maybe people should care for other people better. So on and so forth.

 

But as far as their own personal conduct and personal moral code goes, not so much. This is the reason why I am bold enough to say that modern America discourages self-control and self-discipline. While we encourage it based on the things we say, you and I both know that that's not how things work. 

 

You pay attention to what people do. You're old enough and mature enough to know that people say all sorts of stuff. You're mature enough and adult enough not to trust people at their word. Instead, you pay close attention and you take confidence from their actions and they're impatient. They have short attention spans.

 

It is no surprise that self-discipline is not all that popular in America. In fact, the more you say it, the more people are turned off. Of course, they try to put on a public face. They try to look attentive. But deep down inside, they've tuned you out because nobody wants to touch it with a 10-foot pole.

 

Unfortunately, if you want to be successful in any way, shape or form in the United States, you have to be self-disciplined. You have to discipline yourself otherwise somebody else will do it for you. And believe me. It's not going to be pleasant.

 

So how do you do this? Well, it's as simple as getting what you need to get on the road to better and more effective self-discipline. Even if you think you are already self-disciplined, this framework will take you to another level.

 

Do yourself that favor. You owe it to yourself.

 

The One Thing That Made Our Economy Great Also Threatens It With Disaster!

America is awesome. It is the #1 economy in the world and for good reason. America is built on a tremendous amount of trust. You have to understand that in America, people would put out all sorts of food stock and products out in the street under the expectation that nobody would walk by and steal it.

 

That's how much people trust each other in the United States. In fact, you need to only look at the typical insurance policies and there's a tremendous amount of trust there. In fact, it would be nothing short of mind blowing to somebody who comes from another part of the world where trust is in short supply.

 

The reason why people trust each other in the United States is because the economy incentivizes trust. It grows the more people trust each other. That's why there's a tremendous amount of credit. That's why the credit is freely given and this means that a lot of businesses get started.

 

When businesses get started, a lot of jobs are needed and people are employed. In fact, in the United States right now thanks to the economic policies put in place by a high trust mindset, there are more job openings than people. And I'm talking about people taking second and third jobs. Even after they've done that, there are still more job openings.

 

This is the reason why America is looking to either import more people or invest heavily in automation. Regardless of how things turn out on that front, it is very important to focus on the one thing that made American economy great. Trust. 

 

It is amazing. It is nothing short of miraculous because thanks to America's solid judicial system where crimes are quickly solved and guilty people are punished, there is certainty. So, when people do the right thing, they can expect to be rewarded.

 

When they do bad things, they can rightfully fear swift and certain punishment. When you have such a system in place, trust grows. But the root of all of this is self-discipline. It takes discipline to do the right things day after day regardless of the fact that people are not watching you. 

 

Make no mistake, it's very easy to steal if nobody is watching you. But people don't do it. Enough people do the right thing and that's why the economy and the justice system that enables that economy continues to operate smoothly like clockwork.

 

But here's the problem, given the awesome economy that this amazing reservoir of self-discipline and trust has brought forth, it also planted the seeds of its destruction. Let me explain. Since the economy is based on trust and this leads to convenience, people are focused now on getting stuff as quickly as possible. They'll pay for it later and everything's fine. 

 

Generally, this is not a problem because of easy credit. But here's the problem. The more you engage in easy credit and pay for stuff you don't need with money you don't have; your discipline breaks down. It becomes addictive and more and more people are getting on the bandwagon and it's no surprise that American credit card debt is in the trillions.

 

Most people are only $500 away from a fiscal emergency. In other words, they're messing with bankruptcy if they get hit with an emergency that cost $500 or more. That's how bad our economic self-discipline is.

 

This creates a paradox because if you don't have any self-control over your spending, you spend, spend and spend and this is great for the economy. When you buy from a business on credit, that business would have to hire people.

 

That creates jobs and it boosts the economy. But the problem is it is all rooted in lack of self-discipline and this is going to eventually lead to an implosion. That bill is going to come due. No amount of burying your head in the sand is going to make that unpleasant reality go away. We already had a sneak peek of that in the 2008 financial crisis that leveled the global economy. 

 

Well, the coming consumer debt explosion is going to put that economic crisis to shame. In other words, the one thing that made our economy great, which is the emphasis on convenience, which is rooted in trust, which is rooted in self-discipline, is also its biggest threat.

 

Thankfully, the solution is equally simple. The solution is self-discipline. In other words, stop spending money you don't have on garbage you don't need. You don't need to impress your neighbors. You don't need to wear the latest and greatest fashion. 

 

Live within your means and before you know it, you have enough cash to invest and your money will grow and grow and you will be better off. The best part is you would be living life completely free of debt bondage.

 

How do you do this? Create a self-discipline framework will teach you whatever you need to become a more self-controlled individual. Make no mistake. Either you're going to have to control yourself or somebody else will.

 

Believe me, when the credit card debt collection company tries to discipline you, it's not going to be a pleasant sight or experience. It will be the best financial decision you will ever make in a long time.

Do You Have the Ultimate Building Blocks of Success?

Success is what drives our society. In fact, people love to talk about success. Whether you are working at an office or you're working at the fields, you can bet that people will size you up based on success. I hate to break it to you but it all boils down to dollars and cents.

 

Are you making more money than your neighbors? Are you worth more than the people you went to school with? Did you go further in your career? How do people measure that? That's right. By the amount of money in your bank account. It's all about money, money, money!

 

Now, a lot of people are offended by this. A lot of people think that this is just crass materialism and it rots the soul and so on and so forth. I would agree with them. But despite the fact that we can cry until our tears have dried up regarding the crass materialism of our modern world, all those tears are not going to make this reality go away.

 

People can and do measure you based on your ability to make money. So do yourself a big favor. If you want to build the kind of success that you can have pride in that is free of money, you better have self-discipline. This is the ultimate building block of your self-defiant success.

 

If you want to break away from being measured in financial terms against your cousins, junior high school classmates or fraternity brothers or sorority sisters, you better listen up. Either you come up with your own measure through your own hard work, focus and dedication or somebody else will impose their standard on you.

 

You already know what the standard is. You are already chafing under that standard. It's a standard you did not make. It's a standard you cannot accept. It's a standard that is centered completely around money.

 

You know that you're not just about money. You know that you're worth more. Well, prove it by being self-disciplined. Prove it by taking control over your life. Prove it by taking ownership over the many things in your life that you'd rather run away from.

 

That's how you build the kind of life you want for yourself. That's how you make a statement. That's how you push back against all the peer pressure that the world is putting on your shoulder. That's how you step up and become a full person. How do you do this?

 

Well, it's simple. You live your life day to day doing things that are necessary and unpleasant. Sure, it's hard to show up at work on time every time and to put in 110%. It is particularly difficult when it seems like your boss is incapable of even appreciating all the hard work and effort you put in.

 

But you're not doing this for your boss. You're doing this day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year, not for your boss, not for some sort of external reward. You're doing it for yourself. You're doing it to build discipline because before you know it, you will have developed enough worth inside of you that your current boss would be a complete full to ignore.

 

Either they pay you what you're worth or you're going to walk and get paid. That's how it works. So do yourself a big favor. Invest in yourself in the most important and strategic way possible. Invest in your self-discipline today.

 

How do you do that? Get a framework that is completely practical and written in plain English. In fact, these materials are so accessible and so easy to understand that you think that they are common sense. 

 

Make no mistake, common sense is very uncommon today because everybody's looking for a short cut. Everybody's looking for a freebie. Everybody's looking for an easy way out. You, on the other hand, are digging in and becoming a better person because of that choice.