How to Develop Your Own Style

There are people who spend their whole lives conforming to the ideals of other people, while there are some people who want to develop their own style. If you are the latter type, then it does not mean that you have a large ego or that you are vain about yourself. If you have decided to develop your own style, then it is the sign of a confident personality. You are trying to be unique; there is no harm in that.

 

The first thing you have to do when you aspire to develop your own style is to have a full realization of your limitations and capabilities. You cannot be unique unless and until you know what you can and cannot do. Think about the things you are good at, and think about the things you are bad at.

 

Always try to work to your strengths. If there is something you can do well, try and see how you can improve at it. This is what will characterize your personality. People will remember you for your talent. Aren’t all famous personalities of the world remarkable because of just one talent? Try to find out where your special forte is, and work on it.

 

That does not mean you should ignore your weaknesses completely. You should try to improve on that too. A person with an impressive personality is one who can manage various tasks, but excel at one.

 

It is also important that you listen to your ‘inner voice’. When you are planning on something, ask yourself—What does my inner voice say? And act accordingly. If you have firm conviction in a particular thing, you should probably do just that. There will be several detractors on the way, but you should only heed the advice of people who have noble intentions for you. Don’t be obstinate, but know what’s good for you and act accordingly. Be confident about yourself.

 

Don’t blindly copy others. Don’t try to do something just because someone else is doing it. Do what you believe in, even though other people don’t recommend it. If you are firmly convinced that it is good for you, then it probably is. Weigh the pros and cons of anything that you take up, and when you take something up, commit yourself to it.

 

Developing your own style isn’t something that you can do overnight. Your whole life is a process of developing a personality or a style. Everything that you do will affect it. So, you need to be careful about everything that you do and, above all, have faith in yourself and the people who mean well for you. 

 

5 Tips to Build an Impressive Personality

Everyone wants to have a personality with which they can impress other people. Our existence is all about being what we are and still being liked by people. However, we must realize that we aren’t perfect as we are. We can actually never be perfect, but there are ways we can implement in order to get closer to what people want of us. If we want to build an impressive personality, we have to fit ourselves within the expectations of the people that we encounter, and then some more.

 

That might seem intimidating to you, but if you are just starting out with your aspirations to develop a better personality, then there are some simple things you can plan on:

 

Lend an Ear to Everyone

 

People will constantly tell you of their opinions and give you ideas. Never mow them down. A person with an impressive personality is always a good listener. Make sure you hear people out, and then take it from there. Just like you like it when people hear you out, others want that too.

 

Don’t Give Out Too Much Advice

 

People who are always ready with some advice are actually detested. A lot of people you will meet want to do things their own way. Just like you, they want to be free and independent. That’s the reason you’re doling out of too much advice won’t always be appreciated. It mars your personality. Give out advice only when people ask you directly for it.

 

Always Be Confident

 

You don’t need to know everything, but you have to be confident within your special expertise. This could be your line of work, or your hobby, or some other passion that you pursue and are known for. Other people are going to approach you about these things. You are going to have to make decisions. At such times, you have to make sure that you are confident about your actions.

 

Prioritize Your Tasks

 

You are always going to have a lot of tasks ahead of you. They will be your different social, professional and personal tasks. All of these tasks will deserve to be fulfilled but they will have different degrees of importance. This is where you have to understand the art of prioritization. You have to know which task is most important—the task whose fulfillment affects other tasks—and which is less important. Accomplish your tasks in this order. This ensures that you become more productive and earn people’s respect.

 

Respect Everyone for What They Are

 

Just as you want to be respected, other people want to be respected too. You have to ensure that you don’t slight anyone, that you give them the respect that they deserve. When you understand that others around you are also human and are prone to the same limitations that you are, you become better at handling other people.

 

Work on these points. If you are looking at developing an impressive personality, they are going to help you immensely.

 

Tips to Develop Your Personality at Your Workplace

Your workplace is one place where you have to be at your best. People are scrutinizing you at every moment, whether you like it or not, and they are judging you. Hence, you need to put your best foot forward at all times.

 

This might seem to be a very daunting task to you and you may even feel intimidated about it. But, what can you do about it? What can you do so that you always leave a favorable impression on everyone at the workplace? The answer to this doesn’t lie in a single aspect—you have to try and improve your entire personality. The personality that you project at the workplace should be such that it should impress people. Only then will you command respect at the place where you work.

 

Here are some tips on how you can go about developing that amazing workplace personality that gets you great results.

 

Be Knowledgeable

 

Always know what you are doing. You need to know everything about your job. Always keep gaining information and keep educating yourself. Learn new methods and techniques as they are introduced. When you have the right knowledge, you develop a great personality for the workplace.

 

Be Confident

 

Give out the impression that you are confident about what you are doing. If you follow the above point, i.e. if you gain knowledge, then you automatically become confident as well. You have to be sure of your decisions and your way of doing things. 

 

Be Focused on Your Results

 

Even if you are the most knowledgeable person at work, you don’t go a long way if you don’t achieve your results. This is what proves that you have the spark in you to achieve what you set out to achieve. The best way to do this is by being focused on your results. Concentrate on what you have to achieve. Keep thinking of ways and means to reach those goals.

 

Be Good to Your Fellow Workers

 

This is a social aspect that forms a large part of your workplace personality. Always be kind to your subordinates and obedient to your superiors. But, act within the premise of reason. If you see someone stepping over the line, then you should take the right action. People respect you for being firm on your beliefs, and people are also constantly checking you for the way you deal with the other people at work.

 

Keep these basic points in mind. If you are looking at developing a great workplace personality, these are what you should incorporate within yourself. 

 

How to Enrich Your Mind Even When You Are Super Busy

Everyone’s grouse today seems to be the same—there’s just too much work for me to do! It seems that everyone around us is biting more than they can chew and then they regret it, but cannot back out. This is certainly a worrisome factor, but if you played your cards right, you could do things that could give you a more enriched life. In fact, you could do a few things in that regard even without putting any kind of limitations on your current busy life.

 

Think about these things.

 

1.  Is there something that you really like to do, a real passion? You should spend time doing it at least once a week. Imagine that playing tennis is a real passion with you but you don’t get time to play it any more. Even so, you should try to wedge it somewhere at least once during the week. Or maybe you can invite your office people over to play tennis with you. They want the relaxation too. And you won’t feel too guilty about it then.

 

2.  Buy a good self-help tape which gives good, life-changing advice. There are many such motivating tapes that you can get your hands on. Listen to them when you drive to work. A really good motivating tape in the morning can make your day.

 

3.  Or, you can get some music you really like and put it into the player when you are driving to work. There’s nothing like a dose of your favorite songs in the morning when the whole day stretches yawningly in front of you.

 

4.  Talk to your friends when you can. This is something that can really cheer you up. Maybe you can talk to a different friend each day. This is also a great way to socialize because people don’t exactly have the time to meet their friends regularly nowadays. The best time to call them is in the lazy afternoons when everything slows down to almost a halt.

 

5.  Take short power naps. Do you have some important work looming in front of you that is going to take the considerable part of the evening, and you are feeling sleepy already? It is time to take a power nap. Close all doors to your room, sit on the most comfortable chair you have, draw the drapes and go off to sleep. Set an alarm to wake up after 15-20 minutes. When you wake up, let the dredges of sleep subside, and you will find yourself to be a new, refreshed person.

 

Try these tips to rejuvenate the inner ‘you’ even when you are busy. You will find the difference making its appearance felt soon enough.

 

Recreation—An Elusive Thing that You Have to Grab Hold of

In today’s hasty world, one thing that most of us have forgotten is that the human body needs to relax. We need to take time out for ourselves. Our bodies are more complicated than any machine man has ever devised. Even the best of machines requires to be energized in some way or the other and they need to rest if they have to work for a long time. But, with our own bodies—these amazing machines that nature has provided us with—we are completely laidback. We don’t realize the need of rest for our body machines. And therein lies a major problem.

 

Today, most people flinch at the prospect of rest. There is so much work everyone has taken up that resting seems like a taboo. It is something you should not speak of. It is something for the lazy people who can do nothing good in their lives… that’s the sorry impression we have about rest and recreation.

 

But this attitude can only take us faster to our graves. If our body doesn’t get the chance to recharge itself, how will it be able to continue functioning normally? How do you hope to make your body more productive the next day if you don’t rest today?

 

Rest is one thing; recreation is another. When we are resting, we are just shutting ourselves off from the world for a while. But when we are recreating, we do something that we enjoy. We enrich our minds when we recreate and at the same time our brain is happy because we are doing something that we love. It releases more endorphins and that’s the reason our entire body attains a state of natural felicity. This is a factor that can enhance our health in great measure.

 

However, the important thing is that recreation isn’t something that comes naturally to us. We have to take it. Like for hunger or thirst, we don’t have an instinct for recreation. That’s the reason we don’t ‘feel’ the need to recreate, but this is definitely something that we should do.

 

Whatever it is that we like to do—go for a walk, watch a movie, listen to a song, read a book, write something, talk with our friends, take the dog out, play with our children—we should do. We should spend time doing that for at least a few minutes every day. This makes our mind richer and our bodies fitter. If we want to make a well-oiled, productive machine out of our bodies, then we must not forget to give it its dose of recreation each day of our lives. 

 

5 Qualities You Should Imbibe Within Yourself to Be a Better Person

If you are looking at developing your personality, then there are some highly essential qualities that you should certainly not miss out on. In your quest for personal development, these traits can go a long way in making you successful.

 

Manage Your Time Well

 

People who respect time are the ones that get respect from others. Time is a limited resource—the richest person and the poorest person have the same amount of time to spend. You should understand this. The people who are successful are those who have managed their time well. Learn how to prioritize things and how to allocate the right amount of time for every task that you need to accomplish.

 

Always ‘Be There’ for People

 

You have to always be there for people around you. Help them in their times of difficulty. Even if you cannot help them materially, give them your personal support, some words of reassurance, whatever you can. And when you help people, don’t do it with a selfish intent. You will get reciprocation surely, but you shouldn’t do a good deed thinking about rewards.

 

Be Passionate about the Right Things

 

Humans are differentiated from animals because they can be passionate about things. You need to have a hobby, a special fondness for something, an activity that you zealously pursue. This could be anything from collecting stamps and reading to gardening and traveling. You should use this passion to develop yourself personally through knowledge and in a spiritual manner.

 

Focus on Your Work

 

You should be completely devoted to your profession. Your work is what defines you. It gives you an identity and a proper place in society. Hence, you owe your unstinting dedication to your work.

 

Realize that Life Is a Learning Process

 

Treat life like a learning process. There is so much that life teaches you, and you have to make sure that you learn all these lessons along the way. Even your failures enrich you, because they teach you what you should not do. A successful person isn’t one who doesn’t ever fail; a successful person is one who realizes his or her mistakes and then learns from them.

 

Cheering People Up: How to Do It

There are so many instances when you really want to go out and cheer someone up but you don’t know how. Then you feel limited and you let people vent out their sorrows. However, if you knew how to cheer them up, probably things would become very different. This skill—the skill of cheering people up—is a friendship sealer. You instantly make a bond with the person you are able to cheer up.

 

If you find it difficult to cheer people up, these are some of the ways you can go about it.

 

Start by separating them from the crowd. Find a situation or a place where you can be alone with them. Make them sit down. Sit down next to them. The very act of sitting down together is reassuring for people who are going through a rough time.

 

Do not prod them too much. Do not ask about what’s going on. A very important aspect of cheering people up is that you have to give them enough time. They have to understand that you are with them. They need to trust you in order to start talking. If there is already a trust factor between you, this will be easier. If there isn’t, you should be prepared to give them up. Maybe they will not open out at all when you first meet them. Be ready to leave it at that.

 

Do not ask redundant questions like, “How are you feeling?”, “What do you plan to do now?”, etc. Such questions can only bring more misery to them. In fact, you should not ask questions at all. Be with them for a while. If they want to continue bring with you, then you should take this as a sign that they want to talk with you too.

 

A little physical touch of affection can help. It could be a comforting shoulder given to them to cry on or a reassuring pat on their hand. This can give people a lot of strength.

 

When they eventually talk, listen to them. Most people don’t want advice or suggestions when they are feeling low; they just want to let it all out. Be the ears they want to talk to.

 

Speak objectively. Do not linger too much on what has happened with them. Do not give examples from your own life. That would be just like adding salt to the injury; like freshening up their hurt. Instead, talk normally. Most people would love that. When we are going through a calamity, the most reassuring thing is the feeling that everything is getting back to normal.

 

You won’t be able to be a master at this act right from your first time. But life will give you many opportunities to cheer people up, to give them consolation. 

 

How to Be a Friend to Your Friends

What does being a friend mean to you? Does it just mean having some company for your nights out and for those movies and a few pairs of ears to listen to when you want to talk something? Or does it just mean having someone to help you when you need some money or some other kind of favor?

 

Most times, people say that they don’t have friends that they count on. If you think so as well, maybe you need to look within yourself first. 

 

Friendship is highly relative. You have to be a good friend to people first. It is only then that you get genuine friends who can stick with you through thick and thin. You cannot be a selfish slob and expect everyone around you to give you the shirt off their back when you need it.

 

Though we live in times that are characterized by great strides in scientific and technological progress—in times that are called as the ‘scientific age’ or the ‘computer age’—the basic human qualities such as friendship remain the same. The same age-old values still apply.

 

You need to think of your friends as human. Often, we lose sight of them when we are thinking too much about ourselves. Most people have a tendency of putting themselves at the center of attraction—they think that the world revolves around them and everything else apart from them is secondary. This is certainly not the way to approach friendship. You must realize that your friends are with you for the same reasons that you are with them. Give them first what you expect them to give you—a kind word, support, companionship and everything else that you need for yourself.

 

You don’t want to be a fair-weather friend either, because then that is what you will get for yourself. Fair-weather friends are those who are with you when the going is good and bail out on you when things begin getting rough. You have to pledge your support to your friends. Be with them in their lean times. Even if just stay with them when they are feeling low and don’t say a word, you may be able to give them enough courage.

 

This is what helps you grow a person as well. A person is known by the company they keep. When you are a good friend, you are likely to be surrounded by good friends as well. This develops you as a person and helps you grow. 

 

A Few Aspects of Personal Development that You Cannot Ignore

You must have given a lot of thought to ‘personal development’. A lot of people are talking about it, especially people in business who want to reach their next level of success. But what is personal development? Is it just about building yourself physically and mentally, or is there something more than that? Here we take a look at the different aspects of personal development.

 

One of the most relevant aspects of personal development is growing your personality. You have to strive for becoming a better individual in all respects. You have to develop virtues like patience, integrity, loyalty to people and your work, better commitment to your profession and relationships, love and affection for people around you and so on. It is not about developing just one trait—you need to work on the whole package!

 

When becoming better, you have to focus on the following five most important areas:

 

®   Your family

®   Your friends

®   Your work

®   Your passion

®   Your self

 

Improve relationships with your family members. For them, you should be someone they want to pin their hopes on, someone they can easily share their joys and sorrows with, someone dependable. You cannot achieve this overnight, but every moment of your existence, you should try to reinforce your relationship with the family, and this takes precedence over everything else when it comes to personal development.

 

At the same time, you have to be a better friend as well. Be for them when they need you. Share their sorrows more than you share their joys. Help them in need but don’t make them depend on you so much that they lose their self-reliance. Show them the right path when needed and if a situation arises.

 

Work is what defines you. A lot of people are known by the work that they do. Be thoroughly professional at what you do. Think of every aspect. If you have a talent, use it for the better good of people. Don’t think about your work just in the monetary sense, because then it does not bring the kind of rewards you want.

 

Every person must have a passion. It could be anything that you love to do. Spend time on your passion; it gives you creative release. Improve upon it consistently. Let people know about your passion.

 

But the most vital aspect of personal development is to improve upon your ‘self’. Strive for becoming a better person each day. Imbibe a positive thinking approach even in the grimmest of difficulties and improve your behavior. Let people cite you as an example for all the good things that humankind is bestowed with.

 

Personal development comes through focusing on all these areas. Leave one of them, and the imbalance can be highly disadvantageous to your individual growth.